Combined with your previous thread, I am getting the impression you are hooked up with a somewhat passive, gentle kind of guy. These types would not be likely to ask you to do anything more than what is standard, either in bed or in any other area of your life. Therefore, if you really want another type of sex, you will probably have to initiate it yourself.
Are you sure this guy is the right type for you? I mean, I would bet any amount of money he is a sweet, kind, considerate guy who loves you to death, but you are hostile to him and seem to want a more aggressive-type of guy in the bedroom. You might want to consider whether or not this guy represents the polar opposite of your abusive ex-boyfriend, and whether or not you might be happier with someone who represents neither extreme :
old boyfriend ---------------> ideal guy -------------------> new boyfriend
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?