Originally Posted by
Mac
Thanks - just to clarify - I'm not particullarly jealous (as in, that's not the primary driving force - although as a guy I'll happily admit I do get jealous. As a side note she works with lots of guys and guy clients, and studies with lots of guys also so jealousy isn't an issue here). The driving force is that I have a certain 'rule' which she flouts. She knows I don't like it and we've talked about it. I know from past experiences that keeping an ex in the picture in any form has never been a good thing - and the vast majority of people I've asked agree.
I've asked her (given that she said he's a really good friend) if she'd choose "not him" or "me" - she said she wouldn't give up her friend.
So hit me with it - what's your thoughts?
In my opinion, it doesn't really matter what everyone else thinks is acceptable. You either will or won't tolerate this behavior. If she says she would choose to be friends with her ex over keeping you, then I think you have a problem.
Overall, I guess for me, the question would hinge on the nature of their (dating) relationship, and the circumstances by which they broke it off. Also, it would be a matter of frequency. I might be okay with a chat every couple of months, but daily/weekly contact? No.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?