I can't tell this to anyone so i chose a less painful place to spill the tea. I hope someone reads and replies.
I'm 25 years old and have a bf of 2 years. He is a year older than me. Yesterday he told me that he was a virgin before me. And that's not the serious issue here. I don't care about his past or his gf's. I never did.
But i feel manipulated. I lost the virginity to him, 2 years ago. It would've been easier for me back then to know that we were both virgins.
The thing that bugs me is that he painted me this picture that he had 15+ partners in his life, he sometimes explained stuff "he did" with some of them and got himself in nasty positions with ladies from his past. I thought he is this kind of a heart breaker and you'd think that i should be happy about his confession.
But the real issue is that he wasn't understanding as he should've been in our first attempts of having sex. He would always say i should do oral, that all the other girls did that to him, that i should do this or that, sometimes he wasn't satisfied with me and called the sex "incomplete, not good enough", when he should've been more supportive knowing the fact that he was a virgin too. I would've done the things that he asked for eventually, but i needed time and he always rushed me. I understand that it's hard for men to tell this kind of stuff, but 2 years? I am not a judgmental person.
He is a bit of a liar and our relationship is dated and i fear that this "confession" is his last chance of repairing things, or so he thought. He sounded honest, but i don't know what to believe anymore. If he "confessed" this on purpose to make himself better in my eyes, he failed miserably. I don't know if i should trust him or not. I don't care if he was a virgin, but he lied so well all this time, and so imaginative that it makes me SICK.
Any advice or same experiences? xxx