Hi,
Me and my partner have been together for 10 years, with 2 kids, 1 from a previous relationship, the other ours.
I've had problems dealign with her when she drinks... becomes morose, irritable, discontent with her life, job and kind of takes it out on me, that I should be doing something. There has been aggression and physical violence. After the last bout of violence I said I wanted us to split. We have to sell the house to do this properly. Over a few months I guess we both softened from the initial stand off. Decided to try to make things work. Truth be told, my main reason for not wanting to leave is the affect it may have on my daughter, emotionally. This was pre-Christmas 2010.
So, things have been pretty good. She doesn't drink very often but when she does she binges and has too much, becomes down etc... this happens almost every time she has a drink, so once, maybe twice a week, but still moans on, a lot recently about not having any 'her time' or time in general.
Just recently I've discovered she's been flirting on Facebook, not light flirting but pretty disgusting messages, pictures of herself to other men and pictures back. One bloke leaves locally and I think she has met up with him briefly while I was out. Lots of texts with no explanations, taking her phone with her to the bath etc
Help! What should I do? To be honest it makes me feel terrible, I try my best for her, she complains about how things aren't good enough and does this stuff behind my back. Has anyone else experienced anything like this? Would it be unreasonable to leave her for 6 months, finish with her? The main draw on my heart strings would be my daughter.
Thanks in advance.