Hmm...so honestly i've never been in this position before, as I always thought the clingy, obsessed people were women and not the men, but I have been proved wrong. First I"ll say I am a 22 year old female, who got out of a 4 year relationship about 3 months ago so I am trying to get myself out there and meet new people.
Well I met this guy on Tuesday. We hung out, and I really liked him, he is very good looking and seemed to have a lot in common with me (now I am wondering if he was just agreeing with everything I said) and a cool personality. We just sat at my house and talked and watched movies until about 4 in the morning, when I said I was going to sleep and he left. When I woke up on wednesday morning, I had 5 texts from him already saying things like, "Are you up yet princess?" "I hope I'm the first one you talk to today" "I miss you already" and then "hello?" "are you there" and I was kinda like wow thats pretty crazy this guy must really like me. So I called him and said I just woke up and he asked if I wanted to come hang out at his house for the day. I said sure and ended up going over there.
Well the whole night he was completely SPRAWLED all over me on the sofa and everytime I moved or adjusted my position he would say things like "Are you ok? is anything wrong? Do you want to go home? tell me if you don't like me sitting by you" and at first I didn't care at all but towards the end I was just kind of like ok you are making me not want to sit by you by saying all of those things!
He would show me music videos of all these cheesey love songs he liked and started saying, "I think I've finally found someone to fit all of these lyrics for me!" and "Do you think its possible to fall in love with someone after just a few days?" ugh. Well he asked if I wanted to stay the night, and I did, but I did NOT sleep with him and still haven't. I woke up this morning to him tickling my arm and blowing on my face and it kind of creeped me out when I sat up he just said all cheesey "good morning gorgeous, I just wanted to be the first thing you saw when you opened your beautiful eyes today."............ok now its getting quite creepy. I mumbled a "thanks" and went into his living room to get my stuff together.
Thats when he said, "I wrote something for you" and hands me this paper with this long ass love poem/letter on it about stuff that I don't think is ok to say until you are actually with someone for awhile! Like spending the rest of your life together, and finally feeling complete and this and that. After I read it I had no idea what to say, I just said thanks again and he said, "Oh you can keep it if you want its yours!" and thats when I said ok I guess I'm going to head out now, and THEN he says, "Well I have my overnight bags packed so we can have a fun night at YOUR house tonight!" He was planning on coming home with me to spend yet ANOTHER 24 hours together. I couldn't believe it, I said "Look we've been spending every minute for the last 3 days together, you don't want any time to yourself to do your own things?" and he just looked really hurt and said, "No you are the only person I care about seeing silly!" So at that point I knew I would need an excuse to leave.
I acted like my boss called me into to work and said oh damn! I have to go work now, I'll call you when I get off. He was really sad but I left anyway, and that was 1 1/2 hours ago, and in that time I have gotten SEVEN texts and 2 calls from him all saying, "I'm thinking about you gorgeous!" and "Is something wrong you aren't texting back I hope nothing happened to you do I need to call the police?" and "Are you there? please talk to me", "Am I bothering you?", "You're getting tired of me aren't you?", "did I run you off yet?" and a bunch of other just CRAZY ASS SHIT that just is making me want to SCREAM. I mean if I haven't responded to a SINGLE one, wouldn't he get the hint that I don't want to ****ing talk back?
His last one said, "I have an important question, do you want to be with me? I mean be my girlfriend?" and I have not answered yet. I am pretty distraught because I really thought I could like this guy, but him acting like this just KILLED it. I mean its only been 3 days and I haven't even had sex with the guy and he's acting like this. The other problem is that I am a REALLY nice person, who has a really really really hard time letting people down, but I have got to do SOMETHING to get this guy to chill out and lighten up. Any ideas without being just plain mean? Maybe thats the only way to get this guy to understand, I don't know. Am I just being picky and cold hearted? maybe this is what some girls want and I should like it, but I just don't know if its what I want. Any advice or suggestions is greatly appreciated, thanks.