Okay, so I'm not sure exactly how common this sort of problem is, but I've never experienced it before. Roughly two months ago, my girlfriend of about a year broke up with me. My issue is not actually with her at all. One of my female coworkers, I'll refer to her as T from now on, started talking to me and helping me through my issue. Naturally, I got a little attached to T. However, T had a serious boyfriend at the time who is in the military. T explained to me how he is "the one" and that she can't see herself without him. A few days later T texted me and told me that she caught her boyfriend talking to other girls (she caught him once before, but she gave him another chance). So, T dumped her boyfriend and I repaid the favor and helped her through her struggle.
Fast forwarding to today, T and I are extremely close. We consider ourselves to be friends with benefits, but theres much more to it than that. T and I have identical personalities and humor; it just seems so perfect. We do all of the stuff any other couple would do; essentially we are dating minus the label. The only issue is that she still loves her ex boyfriend and is convinced that he is the one for her. Her ex won't be out of the military for ~3.5 years. We got into an argument last night over whether or not she would "do stuff" with him when he comes home around christmas time. I told her that if she does that I'll have no choice but to end things. I have a lot of feelings for her, but she says that she has no feelings for me. I really don't know if i believe her to be honest. It probably sounds like she is really crummy to me, but she isn't. We both make each other very happy and care about each other a lot. T has told me that maybe in the future we could possibly date, which is perfect because I'm not really looking for a relationship right now anyways.
To make this long story short, I just need some advice. I have no problem waiting for her to settle her feelings, but what if she never does? I really feel like there is something special between us, I just want her to realize it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. For the record, T & i are both college students. Yes, I know that its SUPER early (2 months isn't that much time to get to know someone), but trust me, I've never met someone so spectacular. I had to leave out a lot of details in order to keep this somewhat brief.
Thank you for your time.