I Need some help from any ladies

[Sam1989]

I have recently started a new relationship, we both ended bad relationships around 12 months ago and she makes me feel like i can love someone again.
She always tells me how happy i make her and how she never felt like this about a guy. We usually spend hours talking on the phone if we cant be together.
Yesterday afternoon she went and spoke to her psychologist that has been helping her through her break up.
Her psychologist told her she is moving to fast with me and she shouldn't put me through the stress of court and settlements with her ex.... now she wants time to think... and is thunking about ending it over a small chance that there could be issues in the future.
What do i do to let her know i am here long term without smothering her

[Hooo!]

I would call the psychologist and tell him wtf

There's someone with the chance of happy love and he's like: nah you will get hurt again
I mean wtf

And on the meantime you need to talk to her
You are both hurt and still everything is fine
There is no reason not to be slow or careful
However it works out on your part. You don't mind the stress she is going through
And why should you give up on love if you have a (very good) chance together

If you want to love then there is a way
If she wants it too then you know what you are getting yourself into and you are ready.
And her therapist should see to that she is happy
And not that she may take a risk with a relationship
Any relationship is a risk. That's it.
The dickhead

Makes me angry such douches.
I would do that only if I knew perfectly well that my patient would take the decision against me and for the relationship

[Titanll]

You need to earn a higher degree in psychology than her psychologist. That way she will naively follow your advice rather than thinking for herself.

Why in the **** do people stay with people like this...

To be fair, I'm man and you asked the ladies so I guess my post is invalid.

[topazlight]

Maybe she is using her doctor as an out and a way out of this relationship with you, have you considered that?

[Snow White]

I'm sure you have heard about rebound relationships. If she is seeking professional help, I am sure the Dr. is looking out for her best. I feel you should respect her decision. Don't try to make her feel bad about it. If your relationship is meant to be, then you can pick things up after the divorce is finalized.

[psot2]

I know how she feels, and I can tell you exactly what makes me feel better when I feel like she does.

She needs you, her guy who loves her deeply, to be strong for her.

She has doubts because she's been stung in the past. You can help her remove those doubts by dispelling any bad feelings she may have.

She feels it might not work? Tell her you're SURE it would work and that you'll never leave her, there's no reason to question anything.

She doubts whether you love her? Hold her, tell her you love her, try to get her a small gift like flowers.

This may seem like coddling, but I think that it's something that could make your relationship stronger. She will feel more and more secure the more you let her know and show her that you care about her and want to spend the rest of your life with her. The more secure she feels, the more independent she will slowly become until she will feel that she doesn't need validation from you anymore.