Not sure where to start but I guess I'll just let my fingers go with the flow...
As we all know I already had the baby 3 weeks ago. My stitches are now out, and I believe my period is finally over but I'm not sure because it pops right back up on me out of the blue.
My boyfriend is always grinding on me. I like it, but then he gets hard and I don't want to be the blame for any blue balls because I am not ready for sex.
The fear of becoming pregnant again is extremely high for me because I know in the first 3 months after having one it is really easy to get pregnant again(or so I've been told).
I already have 2 kids, and that's already alot, I can't imagine having 3 with 2 in pampers only months apart. I hate to see that shit much less to become one of those parents.
I haven't had my six week check up so I don't feel comfortable having sex even with a condom until my doctor says it's fine.
My "friends" are always pressuring me to have sex. Saying it's unfair to the bf and what not. Then they say to at least give him head, which he doesn't even want.
Today they brought up the topic about head and my bf says it doesn't feel right to him. So one of them made a joke and said maybe they should take him to a hoe house and get it from someone else.
Now I can take a joke, but I think it went way too far. My boyfriend already can't take pressure cuz his stupid ass will give in. Ever since that stripper thing, I realized he would give in once put under enough pressure, which isn't even alot.
It infuriates me just thinking about it. I can't trust him around his boys because all they gotta do is call him a punk and he will give in. Of course he wouldn't admit that, but I know it for myself seeing as that stripper incident happened in front of me.
I feel like calling it quits/taking a break from this relationship with him until he gets his nut out. I'm not ready for sex mentally and physically and I don't feel the need for worrying about if he has given in and ****ed someone else because I am not ****ing him.
I try to look at things as letting petty things go. I also try not to make decisions based on just my feelings because I refuse to live in a broken home just because of infidelity and then end up raising two kids by myself when I can just keep my family together without being intimate with him since he wants to look elsewhere. But I don't know for sure if it is worth the stay.
Eh, I feel weird and stuck at this point and I'm starting to contradict my views on how a relationship works. Any ideas on how to handle the pressure? Am I overreacting? It's really bothering me.