Confidence...can guys tell?

[drea101]

Hello,

Ive been in a messed up situation for some time now. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 5 years we were only 16. During that time i gained weight..my confidence completely went away. He would always make me feel like crap and what not. Back to now ive been single for a year and a half now. I still have no confidencde about myself and i seem to always get rejected. I know im not an ugly girl because when i was slimmer and more confidence i never seemed to have that problem. Im really close with my best friend which is a guy. I did tell him that i had a bit of feelings with him and ofcourse he said he just sees me as a friend. Is it because of my lack of confidence? Is there a possible way when i start to feel happy about myself that feelings will grow for him? I really like him and i want to see if there was something there. He never gave me a legit reason to why he doesnt like me all he said was because he doesnt want to ruin the friendship. I know i need to work on my confidence and make myself happy but i just wanted to hear it from someone else and hear somebody elses opinion on this. Thank you

[surfhb2]

Who knows what will happen. The fact of the matter us that you're not happy with yourself

You need to forget about a future relationship with this man and concentrate on yourself. I know you already know this but that's all that can be said

[dem862]

It has nothing to do with confidence. He is not attracted to you in that way. Since he doesn't share your feelings, you need to look elsewhere. Good luck.

[Guybrush]

What do you feel that you lack in order to regain confidence?

Is it mainly the weight issue?

[Love'sReject]

He doesn't need to give you a reason; he told you enough which is he doesn't want to pursue a relationship with you, regardless of what you do. Don't ruin a friendship for a wild goose chase .

[basilandthyme]

You've already been 'friendzoned'. No amount of confidence will undo this.

Work on yourself. Then the next guy who comes along will find you more appealing.