Originally Posted by
Sweet Lemon
Hi Pepper,
Don't ignore the first two comments in this thread. They are exactly the kind of attitude toward relationships that you are trying to avoid. Sure we all know that men love sex and want to get laid. So do women. It's an important part of being human. End of story.
HOWEVER we're not all just a pair of tits and a hole waiting around for some loser to take a poke much the same as not all men see us as an object something to be exploited for their own selfish purposes.
I can't tell you what a man wants because I'm not a man but I can tell you as a woman what has worked for me.
1) Confidence = Knowing that you're hot without being conceited about it.
2) A little bit of modesty = There is no need to dress like a hooker when you have the looks and personality to back yourself up (and it sounds like you're doing fine in the looks department) Not too many guys will take you home to mum if your g-string is hanging out the back of your micro-mini skirt.
3) A sense of humour = A light hearted approach is much more attractive than someone who takes everything so seriously all the time. Plus if you can make him laugh the way his mates make him laugh half the battle is won because he's actually enjoying your company.
4) Good in bed and not bad on the cooking utensils = There's a reason why the saying 'Saint in the kitchen, whore in the bedroom' exists even if it is a load of sexist piggery.
5) Affection = No one wants to be with a cold fish.
6) Try not to nag or be jealous = If you're always on his case and trying to monopolise all of his free time he's going to lose interest really quickly.
7) Intelligence = A much needed ingredient. Sure Jessica Simpson is fun for awhile but no one would put up with that brainless bimbo after they've had a poke at her a few times.
If you were a guy wouldn't you want a happy go lucky girl who looks good without being overly high maintenance, gets along with your impossible bitch of a mother, can fry you up a juicy steak, give you a mind blowing headjob and make his friends wonder how the hell you managed to pull such an awesome chick that doesn't stress you out too much? I know I would!
Just as long as he is making you happy, reminding you how great he thinks you are and is treating you right it's really not difficult to accomplish all of the above and feel cherished. I hope this helps!
~Lemons