Ok so there is this guy ive had a bit of a crush on.. his a player so ive kept my feelings out of it but im just very attracted to him. We've hooked up 3 times within the past couple of months and i see him nearly every week cos we go to a lot of the same places. We're friendly and always talk a bit, theres usually some flirting and we get along well.
Anyway last night i saw him out and he went out of his way to talk to me a couple of times, being really friendly. Then at one point we were dancing together and i thought we were gonna hook up. Until he completely shut me down when he randomly asked me if i would hook up with his friend he was with. I sorta knew his friend, and i know theyre really close friends. So i was just thinking what the heck is he serious?! I thought he was joking because he kept laughing and his friend is not exactly a looker. I felt like he would know i would say no and that he shouldnt even ask. But when he talked a bit more i dont think he was joking. And i had got the impression his friend was interested in me that night. Then to make me feel even less significant, a girl he was friends with came over and he felt her up a little bit as she walked past, RIGHT in front of my face, it was completely unnecessary. I acted cool and like none of this bothered me, but all of this was just a big slap in the face.
Afterwards i thought that maybe he was just trying to mess with me and see how i would react. But then i thought maybe guys dont see any problem with that and he was being serious. And if they are serious.. do they honestly think the girl is not going to be offended and that she would actually go for that? So i would really be interested to hear males perspectives.