Its been two years since my marriage ended and I have been seeing this great guy for nearly four months. I can see myself growing old with him and genuinely feel ready for a committed long term, hopefully everlasting, relationship. I am not in a hurry, i'm quite happy to let things develop as they will without rushing but am excited for the future. However, i am discovering, the relationship i had with my ex husband has scarred me much more than i realised...I am feeling insecure, in need of constant reassurance and when I'm not with him (my new partner) all I do is think about him. When something challenges us I am reminded of my ex and start comparing them and this stirs up anger and confusion. I know that they are not the same person, infact very different people but I am worried that if I can't get past the past, it will negatively affect what I feel like could be the most amazing relationship of my life! How do I let go of the crap from the past and learn to enjoy the now for what it is, without the tainted feelings of a life that didn't work?