i dont understand the problem
you like her
you are sorry shes gone from the job so you contaced her because you like her and wanted to ask if shed like to go to *insert meeting here*
and if she is "turned off" by whatever you did then it doesnt matter shit
shes gone from your life anyhow.
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.