What should I do?

[Thesulli1995]

Hello,

My name is Aaron, I am 22 and I have been single for about 5 months now. I just wanted some advice really.

So there is this guy who I dated in August last year, everything was great he was pretty much the perfect guy for me, etc. The only down fall was he worked a lot. Me and my ex broke up 3/4 months before we started dating. The thing is that relationship wasn't a good one, I never quite felt like I was respected or acknowledged in it. So meeting this guy was scary, but I completely fell head over hells for him a feeling that I hadn't had for a long time. My heart was nearly beating out of my chest, butterflies in my belly. I never got that with my ex even though I did love him.

So, moving on with the story we go on our first date and I knew I loved him from the moment my eyes met his. I enjoyed his company and those feelings never left and still haven't until this day. When I think about him or see him on dating sites my heart skips a beat. But going back when we where arranging our second date he had a lot of work on and so did I. So, it was hard to find a time to meet up but we managed to arrange something. We was meant to go to the beach that is like the city across from where we both live. I thought it was going to be a whole day thing, but the week before he said that he had work so could only stay until 3PM or something like that and the beach is one of those places, if you go, you spend the whole day there. So pushed him away I suppose. When I look back maybe it was my experience with my ex that kind of made me act the way I did. But pretty much I blew it and ended up getting back with my ex because I'm an idiot. We have since broken up as I didn't love him anymore and I love the guy I was dating back in August last year. But I feel like too much water is under the bridge or too much time has passed for me to admit these feelings for him. I made the biggest mistake of my life letting him go and I can't seem to get him out of my head. I have had too many "ones that got away". That I feel like I should just tell him how I feel and see what he says back! But at the same time, that is me putting myself in the line of rejection. Which terrifies me, if I'm honest.

So, I suppose my question is do I just tell him that I love him and see how it goes? Or do I just leave it and move on?
I do honestly love him, I'm just afraid it's too late.

[Snow White]

So, did you even have a second date? I think you were hurt and on the rebound. I am all for honesty, but I think if you were to just come out and tell him you love him might make you seem a little psycho. If you can contact him on a dating site, it wouldn't hurt to contact him and say you are interested in a date.

[Hooo!]

Do you have to tell him or can you just spend some time with him?
Also: what do you have to lose?