The man who travels

[MortensOrchid]

I was on Tinder the other day ( yes I know how funny already) and I came across someone's profile that he said that he travels quite a bit for work. Now don't jump down my throat, I am a mature, seasoned woman and I am far from nieve about things like this. He is on Tinder and other websites because if in fact he does travel a lot for work he wants companionship (be it sex or not) as he travels. My question is if this is the case - that you travel quite a bit for work - wouldn't you encounter someone who actually wants to have a serious relationship with you? And then you don't want or need to give this person a consideration and you will disappoint this person who wants to be with you? Any thoughts on this?

[TheEvilJester]

I mean, I'm not sure I understand the point of your question. Matter of fact, if you are asking ME... then yes, I would much rather want to encounter somebody who wants a serious relationship with me. I have absolutely zero interest in a fling, a one night stand, a purely sexual relationship or anything like that. Honestly, I'd rather remain alone than to just "play the field" so to speak. If I'm going to go out with somebody, I want it to be because we are both looking for true love. I'm not saying we have to be madly in love after the first date. We can take it as slow as feels right for us.... I'm just saying I have no interest in a relationship where one or both of us has no interest in it being anything serious.

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But that's me. Apparently this particular fella is not interested in anything serious. At least for right now. So, he apparently would NOT prefer to meet somebody who wants a serious relationship. He apparently WOULD rather just have a quick fling with somebody. The good news, though, is he was at least up front and honest about it. I admire the Hell out of that. That sort of life may not be my personal choice.... but at least he's not leading people on. So many people would pretend they want something serious just to get what they want out of the relationship and then disappear. At least he is being honest so women who may contact him/he may contact know that right off the bat.

As it is, you are looking for something more serious...... So I definitely would not recommend reaching out to him. He's not looking for the same thing right now.

[richiro]

Firstly.. if they say they are looking for "companionship" - that equates to "i'm looking for hook-ups sexually" - no doubt about that.
Are there people on the road that are looking for long-term relationships? Perhaps yes. But the REAL question is... MONOGOMOUS long-term relationships?

The chances of that is very low simply put because they are on the road, therefore there's not that much time to actually develop anything except physical, AND if the person is trying to hook up "while they're in town" - what makes you think their mindset is "i only want to hook up though in ONE town, and i'll choose (insert your home town here)"?

Does that pass the "sniff test"? I think you know the answer.

[Hooo!]

I think you know that tinder is for sex in the first place
You are asking the wrong question