Hey guys!
I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice or if anyone feels the same?
I'm 27, I am told by everyone who knows how beautiful I am and what a lovely person I am. People constantly comment on how nice my figure is. It is nice to hear and I'm very appreciative - but I can't help but wonder, if all of that is true, why am I still alone?
My last boyfriend and I broke up 3 years ago, and it seems since then any guy I get talking to seems quite happy to keep me around in a "friends with benefits" situation but none of them want to commit. I'm not sure where I'm going wrong.
Since the breakup I left my job and got another one. I enjoyed it but was overworked and underpaid, so I have since gotten another new job. This job has really good career prospects and they pay is excellent. I am independent, buy everything for myself, don't expect handouts - though I do admit post breakup I moved back in with my parents and when I took the first job I wasn't earning enough to move out. I am now saving for my own place again so will be fully independent again soon. The entire period I've lived with my parents I have paid rent.
I also took a 6 week traveling holiday between jobs. I have done everything that people usually suggest for things like this. I have achieved every goal I have set for myself.
I'm just lonely. All of my friends are in relationships bar one and she doesn't live local. I am the only single person in my family. I'm finding it really tough lately. I am trying to focus on myself and my new career but I can't help but feel lonely on the weekends or in the evenings when I've no one to talk to. I have been trying to make peace with the fact that love isn't a given and maybe it won't come around again, but I wish with all my heart that it would. I want it more than anything. I'm getting tired of hearing that I'm the "full package" but then nothing comes of it.
I'm not the most social but in the last few months I have really tried to not be so awkward and get out there. I take a while to be really comfortable around people and it may come across as aloof. But I'm trying. I've even started Tinder, and while I have loads of matches none of them initiate conversation. I have a few times but they don't reply or else stop after the first message. I don't understand it.
Is there anyone in a similar situation? Any tips on how to meet new people? I live in a very small town so there's not much in the way of socialising except for bars.