Bought tickets but my gf doesn’t want to go

[lorenz26]

I bought tickets to one of my favorite bands. They are a local metal band which I had the opportunity to buy a pair of the few tickets left. Luckily for me, my online girlfriend is coming over to visit me over the holidays since I went over to see her during a foreign dating event back last time. But when i asked her to accompany me, she refused because she’s not a fan of the genre. Even if she goes with me for the sake of spending time with me, she told me that she’s afraid of the venue and everything that revolves “metal.” What should I do? Should I keep convincing her or just invite someone else? It would be a shame to lose these tickets, but I don’t want to push her.

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[TheEvilJester]

She doesn't like that kind of music. Why would you expect her to go? I mean, it is one thing if she just wasn't into that kind of music but didn't mind tagging along anyway. Then that's all well and good. But, she obviously actively doesn't like that kind of music. So, why make her go? Couples should share some of the things they like and like to do, but they don't have to share EVERYTHING. Certainly there must be other things you two can do together. So, take a friend or somebody who loves the same kind of music to the concert. Let her skip it, but then find something else you two can both enjoy on a different day.

Sure, it definitely is good for partners to share things with each other. So, if she refused to go with you because she just simply refused to even give it a try, that would be something I could understand bothering you. But, it isn't like she just doesn't want to give it a chance. She knows she doesn't like that kind of music. Furthermore, she's even told you the place frightens her. That doesn't sound, to me, like somebody being closed minded and unwilling to share things with their partner. That sounds to me like something she honestly does not like.

Just as an example... I can't STAND Lady Gaga's music. I would NEVER go to one of her concerts, I don't care who asked me. On the other hand, Beyonce isn't really my personal cup of tea.... but I'd go to her concern if I had a girlfriend who wanted me to go with her.

IF your gal starts to prove to be the kind of person who won't do anything with you.... where it always has to be what she wants.... then sure, that would be a problem. But, at least just based on this, I would not jump to that conclusion at all. It sounds like this is just not her type of music.