Have I made a mistake sleeping with my ex?

[Trouble1623]

Broke up with my ex-boyfriend about six weeks ago and I managed to block his number and email. The truth is that I really missed his touch his love and our fabulous sex life. I decided to sign up for some online dating recently and out of the blue I received a response from the site from my prior boyfriend. I tried to ignore it but one thing led to another and after several days I agreed to meet with him to bring some closure to our relationship since the break up was quite abrupt. I broke up with him after I learned he was lying about his finances again.

He told me in that he has changed fully for the better because of me (he pays all of his bills on time and does not overspend) so I met him and talked myself into cutting my losses and just bringing closure once and for all. I think he had the same idea because that’s the way he sounded at the least initially when we began our conversation. However, we each had one glass of wine and somehow started sharing more emotional hurt that we each shared in the relationship. We also discussed how hard it’s been since we’ve been split. Before I knew it I was at his apartment and we had passionate sex. I also told him I loved him which was unusual for me to say first. Of course, now he wants to permanently reconcile. On the one hand I do love him but even though he is at least paying his bills on time, he has little money saved and he is almost 66. So some of the issues may be resolved, but others not perhaps.

Although I know that everybody’s got baggage, what do I do at this point? Do I really trust that he has changed permanently and somehow my anxiety about him having little savings will dissipate over time. The last thing I want to do is hurt my prior boyfriend and I am really concerned about having to get over. We were together 5 years so he has been a part of my life and vice versa. We met when we were both broken emotionally. I had lost my husband and he had served time for a white collar crime and lost all of his assets.

He still wants to marry me or at the very least, live with me so his finances are a concern for me.

Do I go forward and hope for the best or is that unrealistic?

[pcmaster]

By the topic name it seems like it is mistake to sleep with ex. But I asumed that you are like in your twenies or thirties. Laughted when read you are 66. Anyway its great that you both still got it and as long as you are having sex you are not old.

Anyway I think you should go forward and hope for the best. Cause is it money that makes you happy or is being together with people when you felt most happiest? As long as you have roof on top of your head and something to eat its alright, money is just a number.

At you are I would do anything to not to be lonely. Sure money does attract girls but what primary attracts girls is deeper things, character and such things. I mean you could be together with someone riich and steal cheat cause other things are lacking. But then again you could be together with poor guy and never cheat cause more important things are in a place.

This video can help a lot to understand how female brain works and what really attracts and what not so much. So you can better understand yourself and make a right decision.



I really find a lot of ladies over 40 to be confused which one to choose - love or money.