Need some advice

[Fajemeister]

Theres this girl I work with, we've gotten to know eachother really well. We're good friends. I have developed a crush on her and would seriously love to date her. She hasn't been doing well in school and I have been helping her with her assignments and studying for tests because she is seriously in a load of trouble with school plus she has been sick this past weekend.

Well last night we were talking online planing our next study date and she came out of nowhere and asked me if I could admit something to her. So I asked her what it was. She asked me if I had a crush on her because she has never had a guy so interested in her before. I told her we would talk about it in person and she begged me to say something about it, but i told her she would have to be in suspense till I saw her, she didn't really like that so she called me mean for doing that and then i got off cause it was really late. Then she left me a text message for when i got up this morning wich goes like this "Fill me in...is it me or do you have a thing for me? Your so eager to help me and always askin me if I'm alright...tell me the truth"

I thought I was just acting like a good friend. She doesn't feel well so I asked her if she was ok, i mean she looked like she was going to cry when she was sick the other day, who wouldn't ask if the person is ok? And I don't want to see her bomb school, I mean, if I have the ability to help her do better, I'm not just going to sit there and say it sucks for you that you do crappy in school.

So what do you guys think I should do? I would like to tell her the way I feel, but I honestly don't know if she feels the same way. I mean, she has said to me before that I seem like the perfect boyfriend, someone who knows how to treat a girl right. And she constantly flirts with me at work. Were meeting tomorrow, so I need to seriously figure out what to say to her. I actually lost sleep last night thinking about this.

[Junsui]

Y'all flirt and she says you seem like the perfect boyfriend and she was trying to find out if you liked her. Just go ahead and tell her.

[Fajemeister]

Y'all flirt and she says you seem like the perfect boyfriend and she was trying to find out if you liked her. Just go ahead and tell her.

I'm really kinda nervous about it though. I mean the whole flirting thing has been going on for a few months. And it's only now that she has come out and asked me this. I kinda wanna turn this around on her and see if she likes me. Does anyone know what I could say to try and put her in the spotlight instead of me?

[Junsui]

lol Nice! I know it can be tough telling someone how you feel. Just go for it. I don't see how you can turn it back on her without that telling her you like her. The worst that can happen is she doesn't feel the same way. Nothing lost though.

[Fajemeister]

lol Nice! I know it can be tough telling someone how you feel. Just go for it. I don't see how you can turn it back on her without that telling her you like her. The worst that can happen is she doesn't feel the same way. Nothing lost though.

Your right. I do like her a lot, thats why I'm afraid to talk about it. But I still think I can turn this one on her and make her say how she feels before I do. I'll wait for some more input from the experts. Thanks Junsui!

[Junsui]

Yeah, I'm not an expert since I have no experience in life.

[Fajemeister]

Yeah, I'm not an expert since I have no experience in life.

I meant I was going to wait for MORE expert advise before I go talking to her.

Well one of the things I'm going to try and get her with is one night about a month ago she called me at like 1 in the morning just askin me what I was doing, but it was different from just saying Hi. It seemed differerent because 1) it was late at night and 2) she just had a different tone to her voice, it's hard to explain.

Latley online she has started using the the term I love you more freely, not that it means much, but she has never really started using it till about a week ago.

It's just all the little things like that that i've been keeping track of and there are a lot of them. I mean I honestly think she has somewhat of an interest in me. It's just she doesn't seem like a 1 man girl, like she likes to go out and stuff. But at the same time, she has told me that she really is a loser, like she'll go home after work on a fri and sat night and just sit in front of her computer. She doesn't go out that much. She doesn't really like her friends cause they always make her the DD, so she doesn't go out much anymore.

After all that blabbering, anymore input would be nice.

[Junsui]

I meant I was going to wait for MORE expert advise before I go talking to her.

I'm just playing around with you! It's slow at work today.

[Fajemeister]

I'm just playing around with you! It's slow at work today.

lol, oh ok

[shh!]

Tell her you like her. I think she likes you too, or she would be avoiding you. It is pretty obvious that she is aware of your feelings.

[Fajemeister]

Tell her you like her. I think she likes you too, or she would be avoiding you. It is pretty obvious that she is aware of your feelings.

I'm sure she is aware of my feelings, from the way she was talking it sounded like she knows but isn't sure so she's almost second guessing herself.

I feel like she likes me but it's only a borderline thing, kinda like she would consider going out with me. I'm just afraid I'll be completly wrong and she has no interest whatsoever and that would really suck. But I feel like I'm right, like just based off of all the things that have happened over the past few months, I just feel like I know I'm right about her having an interest in me, which is why all of a sudden she has asked me about having a crush on her. I've kinda noticed a change in the way she has been acting for the past 2-3 weeks.

I just don't want to be the one that comes out and says something, thats why I want to try and flip it around. I honestly wanted to talk to her a few weeks ago about this subject and why she seems so attatched to me compaired to other people. She'll tell me things that she won't even tell her friends that are girls. I just hope she isn't really viewing me as a good friend, otherwise I'm scared it would freak her out if I really told her that I like her.

[Fajemeister]

I just wanted to give an update. We were going to get together to study today, but then last night she tells me she doesn't need help anymore, so I called her and started talking to her and she was completley lost with the material she was studying for. Then she said she needed help again and she would let me know about today.

Last night before I went to bed I was talking to her and I mentioned there was something I've been wanting to ask her for a while. (Basically if she has a thing for me, and i'm going to throw out some of the things she has done to show she likes me). But I wouldn't tell her last night. So she kept asking what it was I wanted to ask her and I told her I'd rather do it in person. So she go really anxious because of that, she said she needed to know so she can prepare herself, lol.

So today I called her and asked her about getting together to study and the first thing she asks me is what I wanted to ask her last night. Again I said I'm waiting untill the next time I see you. She said it's been diving her nuts all day, but I still didn't want to give in b/c I really want to see the expressions on her face when I'm talking to her about it.

So we finally got on the topic of studying and she said she can't study with me because she gets too distracted and it's hard for her to stay focused. (I've studied with her once before on a paper she was writing) I asked if I made her uncomfortable and she said I kinda do, it's just hard for her to focus.
So my question is, is it good for me that she said she can't focus on studying when i'm there? Because isn't it showing that she's focusing on me more than the work? Basically I'm just looking to see if the girl really likes me.

[Junsui]

Yes, it sounds like she likes you.

[Rosebud]

Yes, by everything you have said she likes you! And I agree you should tell her in person but the more you keep making her wait on all this stuff, she's going to lose interest and or get frustrated with you. Don't worry about how you do it just do it. Tell her how you feel and go from there.

[Fajemeister]

The only thing thats throwing me is that she is definately not the type of girl to have a BF. She's the type of girl that likes to go out and hook up with different guys. But I don't know, mabey she really wants to try this. I know she had a BF for a while, so this isn't totally out in left field.