It goes like this:
had a previous girlfried for 2 1/2 years then slip up beacuse it was to run of the mill for me and i lost intrest. Didn't cheat on here but could have ended it better and now feel guilty for that. Then meet a spainsh girl who didn't speak that much english but we meet up went on a few dates and then fell in love and moved in all with the space of about 2 months now 5 months later we are living together but i felt myself loosing intrest again and i really couldn't see why? she is two years younger than me and my ex was 6 years older. I told her that i think we should split up as i don't feel the same way towards her as she does to me (she is head over heels in love) and it wouldn't be fair on her. she has just told me she has a flight booked to go to spain tomorrow as predicted. we talked for hours and said that neither of us really want to split up it is just not really working living together in london and have agreed to wait for each other until i sort out a few other problems (financial and friend realted) in london and she goes back to her town in spain then in a few months when i am sorted i come over to spain and we get back together. also my ex has been in contact with me and has made it clear she still has feelings for me, i still do for her in a much smaller way but am so confused and lost as to what to do. Do i go to Spain when i'm sorted? Do i get back with the ex and lead a comfortable life? do i go single? your help would be much appreciated.
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19-11-05, 12:48 AM #1
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what can i do?
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19-11-05, 12:51 AM #2
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Go single. Why did you move in together so fast? Stop getting into relationships when you have no clue what you really want.
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19-11-05, 12:54 AM #3
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I seem to meet girls and then a, want to be caught up in love and romance and b, what them to be the same and be the best boyfriend they have ever had, i go in with 2 feet everytime. It kills me to think that i will never see my girlfriend again and i don't want to hurt my ex any more that i already have?
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19-11-05, 12:56 AM #4
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Oh well, life sucks.
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19-11-05, 01:01 AM #5
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Originally Posted by Junsui
well done your a great help and why does it say you are a newbie when you post 40 times a day.
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19-11-05, 01:05 AM #6
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Hey jerkoff, don't go off being a dick when you don't hear what you wanna hear. I mean, read the info you gave us, put yourself in our shoes who know nothing about you but a couple paragraphs, and see what you're asking and tell me how you would respond.
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19-11-05, 01:07 AM #7
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hahaha because I put that when I joined and just haven't changed it. I'm sorry, I know I should be faster about those things!
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19-11-05, 01:13 AM #8
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I agree...The first post and the best advice you'll get. You have no clue what you want so stop going after girls until you're sure. Originally Posted by Junsui
-to be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.- e.e.cummings
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19-11-05, 01:23 AM #9
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Good point. Originally Posted by Junsui
"Mrs. Tone" has a nice ring to it... change it and then get your b/f to sign up to LF so he can know what's up. :D
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19-11-05, 01:31 AM #10
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lol Yeah, that sounds smart.
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19-11-05, 11:32 AM #11
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I'm curious what *your* age is, idlewild (Mr B)?
It's normal for relationships to calm down a bit once the courting phase has passed, but there are many things that you can do to put the spark back into it - if you really want to.
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19-11-05, 12:40 PM #12
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You stay single!! My ex did the same thing to me, started all hot and heavy, then lost interest, told me he still has feelings for his ex, he doesnt know what he want......After 3 months, I'm still heartbroken, angry, depressed.....
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19-11-05, 01:01 PM #13
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My sympathy is with you... Hoping the best for you. Originally Posted by iamfeelingsad
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19-11-05, 05:40 PM #14
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Reading between the lines of your initial post, I'd say you'd want to avoid complicated romantic involvements altogether until you're clear on why you engage in them in the first place: for what they are, or for the creature comforts that come with them. Sounds a little as if you're not appreciating the tree, but only the shade it brings.
Speak less. Say more.
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23-11-05, 07:29 PM #15
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Well thanks all for your advice i'm 22 by the way. sorry for being narkey at the stat "ifeelsosad" i'm sotrry to hear it and the main thing out of all this and why i'm on this site is because i dont want to hurt any more people, so hearing you say that has made me think and even thoguh at this moment i want to get on the next flight to spain i'm going to stay single for a bit, cheers guys.
