My girlfriend went overseas to studies for a year.. She was about to come back during her holidays when she called me. She said she wanted a breakup because she has been thinking about our relationship. She feels she has always thought our relationship of 4 years has something wrong. And over there, she met her lecturer(10 years older) and she was simply smitten. (The lecturer shows completely no interest and already have a steady galfriend. So she has no hgh hopes) So she felt any progess in our relationship is impossible since we never had this feeling. So she ends it right here. She is still very nice to me and worried that I cannot get over it.. I am ok towards her and I do not hate her at all as I think under the stress and circumstances, it is perfectly understandable?
However, I do feel very strongly about 2 points:
(a) I think what she had was a crush and It will be unfair to everybody if she based her decsion on the feelings of a crush. Isit true that you need to have a particular feeling before the relationship can work out? If it's lacking, then it cannot be developed? I certainly do not think so...
(b) I cannot really accept the fact that she faced the 'problem' on her own and come to a decision without any discussion at all.. It was a complete shock. Right now, I feel we do have a chance if we had discussed it together or I could have been around with her in the critical moments. I really hope to look for a second chance to correct it but I know chances are slim.(She seems to have got over it alright, so I think it will be pretty selfish on my part to trouble her again)
What should I do? Anyone please advice, thanks