I am 40 and my wife is 25. We've been married for 4 years now and together for 6.5.
About 8 months ago I left for Australia to support my family for work. My wife and kids stayed behind and were supposed to eventually move to Australia but after about 4 months my wife decided to get a job and stay in the States. Things were ok for a while but then I tried to manipulate her to get her to move to Australia by saying I was having an affair then when seeing this had no affect would let her know I wasn't. Things were touch and go and we still communicated although not well. About 1 month ago things suddenly turned for the worst and she stopped communicating all together. I left for the States immediately only to arrive to find her and the kids gone. For a couple weeks I tried to communicate with her via email but she refused.
She didn't know what to say so she let her boyfriend (found this out later) write emails as her to tell me that she had met someone else and was "Moving on" I managed to convince her to see me where we talked for a while, had a couple drinks then put the kids to bed then made love for 4 hours like nothing had ever happened it was very strange. She didn't even call him to even tell him she was ok even when I asked her to. The next
day we woke up and talked for hours and hours she spent the day with me and we seemed to be reconciling. We again made love that day. She states that she loves me and that she doesn't love him and isn't planning on getting married. Later on she left again to go to a Superbowl party with him. It was that evening when I got a letter basically saying that it wasn't fair for her to lead me on because when I leave for Australia she's just going to go back to him. She didn't think it was a very good decision and she wasn't even really sure why she was doing it but she felt it was something she had
to do. She says she doesn't know what she wants. She says she will always
love me that I am the father of her children and still ends some messages with "I love you"
It's very odd and I have no idea what's going on maybe someone can elaborate?
The guy is 46 and she's 25 He has a house and nice car and children of his own he's divorced. My wife is on Anti-Depresents and has been diagnised as being a Manic Depressive and is neurotic to boot. When I asked if they had anything in common she said they're on the same medication rofl....
She doesn't seem to love him she's negative about him so I can't really see why she's doing this and I don't even think she knows. She moved in with him suddenly with the kids as well.
I was wondering with what's happened here and her cheating on him with me a couple times if her relationship is now doomed to succeed...... I mean it was based on her cheating on me with him so he can't possibly trust her now that she's cheated on him with me a couple times.
I have no clue what's going on it's all very strange to me.
Does this sound like she's in a rebound relationship? Sounds that way to me.
I hope it goes down the tubes because I really love my wife. I just think she has some issues.