New here... Need help!

[ChaChaLicious]

So, heres the deal... i'll brief you all about myself and my relationship, then tell you my problem.. SO... ive been dating this guy for 2 years... i love him more than anything in this world. he's been there for me through thick and thin.. im very close with his family, love them as if they were my own parents... he moved to PA a year ago to attend school, and is finishing up end of April.. so for the past year, i guess you can say that it has been a long distance relationship... He is a very smart, very intelligant person with a very strong personality... he is very stubborn, and he likes everything to be within his control and his way ONLY!! he almost never compromises and i am the one who always needs to put aside my wants and needs for his satisfaction... NOW... problem... lately he's been acting very strange... (no he isnt cheating on me.. that i know for a fact..) he has trouble saying i love you.. if i dont say it first, those words wll never come out of his mouth... he never calls me first, i am always the first to pick up and call him... and when i attempt to bring it to his attention, if the subject isnt what concerns him, if he doesnt care or doesnt want to hear it, he'll brush it off or tell me to quit complaining.. he used to be my best friend... i was able to talk to him about anything since day 1, but now i cant say a word about how i feel because i get pushed aside... i dont know what to do.. i love him very much.. all our mutual friends tell me to break up with him and that i can do better... and i know i deserve better, but i want it from him... WHAT TO DO?? HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[King Zarathu]

i'm almost positive it isn't because he doesn't love you. i'm sure he loves you more than you can dream of. he just has low self-esteem and wants you to chase him to make himself feel better.

try giving him a lot of attention and tell her how cute he is and whatnot. also, regarding the phone, it might also be because he's busy at school.

<333 don't sweat over it, and PLEASE, don't make a drama out of it.

[ChaChaLicious]

i know he loves me... i never said he didnt... and he gets out of school at 8pm and goes home to play video games for the next 6 hours or... goes out with his buddies from school.. cant seem to take out 5 minutes to call your girlfriend? nah nah... not acceptable!!!

[clynn]

True. That is pretty lame.

Yes, you might just want to try breaking up with him. He doesn't seem to get the message any other way - you have tried talking to him about it, right?

[ChaChaLicious]

yeh i have, but i get blown off cuz its not something he wants to hear.. and i dont want to break up with him because i love him very much.. besides... i think i might be the pressure of being away from his family and away from me and being alone in PA and going to a school that isnt really what it was made out to be that brought out this eerie persona in him.. you know? i hope its that way.. im hoping its a phase and it will pass...

[Pears]

Insecurities are more prone to arise in relationships that turn into long distance ones. It is hard to feel close to someone when you're so far away. When a couple is physically together, they feel a closeness which people may call being "in love". When they separate and become long distance partners, all they have is phone and/or messaging conversations. Those types of communication mediums can not compare to the sensation of a couple being physically together. That may be a reason he is losing the will to say the "I love you" phrase. He may not feel it.

He may not like phone conversations. Perhaps, the more you mention it to him, the more frustrated he becomes and the more prone he is to escape and play games.

It is unfair that you have to sacrifice so that he gets his way. You do not deserve to be treated that way.

Are you going to see him again anytime soon? If you feel that you can wait until you see him, things may very well be resolved then. If you can not take the things he does anymore, you should consider talking to him and telling him that the relationship may not work for you.

This similar situation has happened to me numerous times. Everytime I just waited to see my partner again because long distance never worked for either of us. Things were always resolved when we were together again.

By the way, please do not use pink font.

[ChaChaLicious]

i see him on the weekends and he'll be back home with me permenantly in the end of april... so its not too bad...

[clynn]

Well, hang tough then...that's not too long to wait considering you've been together for so long already

[King Zarathu]

communication is the key to the solution

[misombra]

that pink text is downright intolerable.