how to talk to a quiet guy

[pinkpuca84]

how do you make a quiet guy open up to you? i have this feelings to this guy, but he's rather "mysterious", cos he doesnt really talk about what he feels. he jokes around, and for a couple of times we had a "close" discussion about his feelings...but then the next days...he acted like nothing happened...and he wouldnt talk to me for days... (after we have that deep conversation)

but when we only talk about normal stuff and joke around, he would talk to me everyday on msn. i really like this guy, but i feel that whenever i think we become close, he would go away...then come back again when i least expect him (cos by this time, i would already give up from expecting him)

what should i do? i really really like him. believe it or not, i like him since i was in grade 6. (thats 9 years ago!) but we become apart, and only got in touch again with each other since 4 months ago. we only have contact on msn, cos i live in different country due to study purpose. he lives in our homecountry. so MSN is the only way we interact with each other.

please help me...

[clynn]

hey you sneaky lark......this is the same boy, same girl....different thread, n'est ce pas?

[Only-virgins]

how do you make a quiet guy open up to you?

Open what up?. I would recommend making him comfortable and make him trust you. Other than that you move the conversation in the direction you want to go. I am quiet, I answer anything asked, so if he is anything like me and you want to know if he likes you..you simply say "do you like me?" and not beat around the bush.

[pinkpuca84]

yea Clynn....it's me...pinkpucca again...btw...thanks so much for the reply from the last threads

[xwfuro]

uhm try to talk on the phone rather than online first off... otherwisew just try to hangout with him a lot and he wiull probably op[en up. once he learns to know you and trust you he will probably open up

[pinkpuca84]

he lives in different country. we can only communicate on MSN. if i call him, he might get scared of me, dont u think? cos he might wonder why a girl would ring him up from other country? there must be something....so he will run away....

[daisy]

Talk to him when you are on-line. Just be brave

[dono]

Question: "How to tak to a quiet guy."










Answer: "Very softspoken, oh, and..... shhhh!"

[xwfuro]

well if he is scared to talk on the phone to you thats a sign its not going to work out, therfor calling him would be a small test plus a good way to getting things rolling

[pinkpuca84]

yea....guess u're right. i was just scared that i might scare him off or something. as far as i know, he doesnt like to be "chased" by a girl. so i was rather "too" careful, i guess...

[Smallspirit]

I'd be careful of discussing things that are more personal on MSN, because through experience I've found that it can be sooo hard to judge exactly how each other are feeling. Like if you're joking around and they 'appear' not to find it funny, I could never tell if they were really offended or just 'jerkin' me back!! Know what I mean?! I think I may have messed up an otherwise good relationship with a girl recently, but she only lives a few miles away, and not in another country like your romantic interest!

You could always just phone them up, have a good excuse or whatever, and take it from there. If the convo is good its good, if its bad its bad. It doesn't matter, at least you'll get more of an inkling as to how the relationship could go than if you're reading each others typed words!!

Good luck!