Traveller can't settle down (over 20's only please)

[nomadicmatt]

I'm a new comer. UK guy, 27, travelled a lot, been in over 40 relationships, longest lasting 1 year.

Thing is my relationship invariably end up with me backing off, heading somewhere new or saying I don't want a relationship.

For example, 1 week before my last trip I met a girl and saw her intensively for my final week before jetting off. I got back on Sunday, 4 months later and she's been 'waiting' for me, although I told her not to. We have a week of sex before I realise this doesn't feel good and tell her I don't think it's working.

Thing is I do want is something meaningful and I'm not a player. But I'm not sure why I keep backing off the way I do.

I have had some very bad relationships before and been hurt badly, including having a girl try to commit suicide after we broke up after seeing each other for just 3 weeks.

Is anyone else having similiar problems. Please be honest but fair, if you think I'm a selfish b*stard, tell me.

[hallanole]

i've been there. now i'm in a funkier stage... whatever.

i've had my share of bad relationships, my last one was a closet pill popper.. he got freaked out that i couldn't spend more then 24/7 with him. i am going to school full time, working full time, i have a child and only weekends to fit family, friends and others in. okay now you got that point.

well he called my mom (me and her think oil and water) saying i was doing drugs in front of child, and all this bull. he was trying to ruin my okay at that point relationship with my mom, who would flip out because i was doing this crap with a friend, leaving me to turn to only him...

turned out differnt then he expected. lol. i've been single for almost a year. i don't trust guys for more then we can hang out play pool yadda yadda.

so since this x retard. lol. i really have a hard time "getting attached" to a person.

sure i want to have a nice guy, then someday in the future a white picket fence with 2.5 kids. lol. *kicks the fence* okay forget the fence part. lol

okay the point of my rambling since i am so extremly bored..
your not a bastard, your normal! well as normal as can be expected...what is normal anyway?

[djr]

If it's not right, what else are you supposed to do? You're not lying to them, are you?

If you were really a b*stard, you'd be stringing a dozen of them along at any given time.