why i never get the one i want

[confused01]

i don't know but it usually work the oposit way for me
for example when i have a crush on someone they usually never like me as a gf only freind and the people i like as freinds they like me to be their gf
what's wrong with me?
do you have any suggestion guys does it usualy happen to you?

[xwfuro]

thats never happened to me consistently but i guess ive kinda had that happen to me. i just usually choose the shitty ones lol. the liars, and lushes seem to attract me.

[Ellynn]

Its happened to me! And Im a woman! Usually the guys I really really like....(like a crush) don't usualy end up liking me like that. But then I get these guys who are sweet...or friends of mine....who like me......but I just don't feel that chemistry.

If love wasn't so special...it probably would be easy to find..

Heres to hoping one day we find someone who shares the same feelings we do...

[confused01]

hope so too. i recently liked this guy he was with me in the same school i told him how felt. and he didn't want to loose me means our freindship
common. i thought it won't hurt to be rejected but it really does. he is a great guy though i still wish him to change his mind but i won't hope anything for now.

[pinkpuca84]

i'm so sorry to hear what happened...anyway,...i guess we're on the same boat here...but not to wory...i'm doing fine til this day...and i hope u too...sometimes things dont always go the way we want it to, but then again who knows what's just around the corner what happned to u is SOOOO common !!! believe me...it happens to me too...oh well...we're still young...this is the kinda *small* struggles that all of us will go thru once or twice...or even more, in our lives. just accept it. i believe at the end, it will work for our own good cheer uuppppp

[pinkpuca84]

btw...i just remember...be very very careful what u wish for! when u said "why i never get the one i want"...seriously, are u SURE u never get what u want? as for me...i dont dare to say such words...mm...dunno about u...but regardless for what happen in my love life, i regard myself as a lucky person, and i dont wanna change a thing. someone i know, once told me "if u're not thankful for what you have, God might take away something in ur life, the one that u always take for granted"....isnt that scary? remember this wisdom words "you dont know what you have until u loose it" ?? hmm...so my advice to u is...regardless for what happen to u, Confused01, dont despair, remember...for NOW...u only gets rejected by the person u wanna be with. it doesnt mean it will happen in ur future too...so...yea...i hope it makes u feel better, as i believe many people in this forum, even have bigger problems than us, have u read threads from others? some of them are so sickly sad, u know? see how lucky u are compared to some of us?

[confused01]

hi pinkpuca thanks for your support i appriciate that.
lhamdolilah i'm thankfull to god to everything, but i ws just wondering why i always choose the people who are not meant to be with me, what's wrong with my choices, do i have to change my expectations or my choices or what? i know i shouldn't say that i never got what i want but i specified i was talking when i have a crush on someone i usually find out they don't or, they do but they don't want to loose me as a freind or what ever the excuse is, on the oder hand guys who likes me to be more than a freind i usualu never think of them or wish them to be more than that, as ellynn said no chemistry.

[pinkpuca84]

yea...i understand u...i think that when we like someone, subconsciously we act differently. i guess guys can "smell" that. i myself dont know for sure why...cos it actually happens to me too (i'm sure u know what i'm talking about, since i remember u very well, as u replied to my threads last time sometimes i also wonder tho...but thats my best bet...they can "smell" it. anyone agree with me?
and no...i dont think u ever need to change our expectation. unless ur expectation is somewhere like "have to be prince william...or equal" thats when i think it's a little too much...hehe...

[confused01]

my expectation are easy and simple someone who loves we the way i do who will care for me just like i do and who want to enjoy being together, and we should share the same ideas and emotion you know what i mean
everyone wishes for the same thing i believe