hello. this post is really long..sorry! but i wanted u to have all the info to understad the situation to its best.
right...ive been with my boyfriend 18 months now and i love him so much. he's a wonderful man and he's crazy about me too.
but our relationship has got to that stage now where its not exciting any more, and i know this is bound to happen.
hes recently got a new job, and is working a 70 hour week sometimes. we used to see each other all the time but now its lucky if we get 2 nights a week together. hes always tired because hes working so much so when we do see each other we dont do anything, just sit around.
we've discussed this and have agreed to put more effort into our relationship because we dont want to loose each other.
now this all sounds well and good, were sorting through our problems but this is where i cocked up big style.
because of the increasingly serious nature of the relationship ive been getting nervous (im a huge commitment-phobe) and the thought that i will never be with anyone else again is really daunting, not because theres anything wrong with him, its just me being stupid.
so, i went out with my friends last night and it was really fun. but my boyfriend couldnt come because he was working again. as the night drew on we all got incrasingly drunk and increasingly flirty with each other. at the end of the night we all went back to a mates to watch a film. my friend came into the kitchen while i was getting a galss of water. he told me that he really fancies me and kissed me. and whether it was because of all the background stuff thats going on or just because i was drunk, i kissed him back briefly. i realised what i was doing and stopped and just walked off and went back to the film. but later on we ended up sat next to each other and he took my hand. and i didnt stop him.
that was as far as it went and i dont want it to go any further. like i said i love my boyfriend, it was just a really stupid thing to do. but now i had 2 quandries.
1)do i confess to my bloke and apologise and say it will never happen again or just not tell him. and
2) do i talk to my 'friend' say what happened was wrong and that it was a mistake and it must be left there. or pretend i was so drunk i dont remember and never speak of it again (or get drunk around him again)