Help, what should i do....

[LoveHurts]

Hi, Me and my gf have been together for almost 3 years and we break up 5 mths ago... By now I still haven't gotten over her cause I still think about her constantly she still calls me once in a while to chat and will also msg me some of her daily life problem...(I really dunno how she does it like nothing had happen like tat) when she told me she does not have enough money to spend i will quickly transfer her some money... abt 2 mths ago i got ask her if we still can be together but she said not now as she still think now she just can't be togeher with me, not now... i ask her is there a 3rd party and she said no... so i was preparing to wait for her to come back to me..... but just now we went to my friend birthday party she drop her handphone and i found it but i dunno where she went so i take a look at her msg (Ok, i know i shouldn't do this) to see if she still keep my msg with her... But what the F*CK, i saw another guy name in a folder with a 157 msgs in it!!!(Ya, straight after that i went home) What should i do??? i still love her very much after all this happen... How should i stop seeing her when she is now also my best friend's friend...so no matter what i still got the chances of seeing her during celebrations so if i want to stop seeing her that mean i will have to stop seeing all my best friend right? I felt happy when she call me or msg me... and she is my first love also... I also dunno why after 5 mths n i still can't get over her and move on... Awww man, i feel so sad and stupid now... and i can't get into another relationship because i still love her... Sorry for the long post but i am really very lost now...

[dreamer]

why do you feel stupid? you really shouldn't. i went out with this guy not NEARLY as long as you did with your girlfriend, and i didn't even love him. But it took me about a year to get over him and our relationship because it meant a lot to me. sorry :-x I'm not sure if that is really encouraging...

for the time being, i would keep myself busy, and probably throw out any reminders (aka: just take a little break from your best friend, who should understand), and probably go somewhere really peaceful, and just think. sorry i'm not so helpful, i'm pretty new to this.

[bluesummer]

First of all......STOP giving her money. Why would you do this??!

STOP being her shoulder to cry on when she has 'life problems'.

STOP acting like you're spending every waking moment praying she will be with you again.

She is walking all over you, and using you. She clearly has no respect for you or your feelings, but is reaping the benefits of your constant need to 'be there for her'. Do you not see any of this? Breaking up hurts, but it hurts more if you let the pain drag on and ruin your life. She is obviously over you and you are not getting the message.

Do yourself a favor.....cut off contact with her for awhile, stop rushing to her aid whenever she has a 'problem', and go live life for yourself for a bit.

[Only-virgins]

LoL, you give her money?! you are a freaking chump. How do you get money to give to her since you sound and type like you are about 12 years old?