what does it mean?

[pinkpuca84]

when a guy puts his hand around ur shoulder when u walk together, sits very close to u (and still puts his hand over ur shoulder even when u two sits down) and gives (puts) u his jacket on ur shoulder (but the weather was rather cold), does it mean he likes u ? would guys do that to any girls?

my first ex did that to me last week when we met up, after we separated for 3 years (met for the first time). then he gave me this huge piggy soft toy for my b-day. he sent me text as soon as he got home, telling me to drink warm water, incase i got a cold. for me, he's very attentive and caring. the next day he called me on msn, asking "how's life, sexy?" (he never called me "sexy" when we went out 3 years ago tho...

rrr..but before i jump into conclusion, i wanna ask u people, what does he mean by doing all these sweet things to me? would u do that to ur ex?

[vashti]

It sounds like he likes you. Why don't you ask him?

[King Zarathu]

More importantly, why don't you rip his clothes off and find out how he reacts?

[Ellynn]

Definately sounds like he still cares about you.... I would definately look into it and find out.... That is....if you still wanna be with him.

[Only-virgins]

He wants to hump.

[pinkpuca84]

thanks for the replies guys....hmm...i see patterns here. guys answers seem to lead me to think that he's being "sexual". the girls in the other hand, think that he's being caring. i got mixed signals now.

anyways, we broke up cos his parents are very traditional (he's chinese) and they only expect to have chinese daughter inlaw as well (which i'm not...i'm from other country). we hadnt met each other for like 3 or 4 yrs, we only rarely talked in msn. but since last week was my b-day, he wanted to see me.
i know he said that already got a gf (back in china), but he said he doesnt love her that much, and he cant see himself marrying her. i used to love him so much (he's my first bf), and he did too (i know this). but because of parents reason, we can't possibly continue this relationship. both of us understand this. cos my parents are like that as well.

now i thought we're just really good friends. but now since our meeting that day , i started to doubt if he thinks that we're only just friends. i dont want to let out my feelings to him. cos i know it's a dead end. there's no way we can continue this relationship even if i like him also. so...by me asking him what he meant by what he did to me, wouldnt be any good. i just want to know from other people's opinion

[vashti]

If he has a girlfriend, stay away.

[Gigabitch]

I'm going to have to concur with OV on this one- he wants to hump.

[Ellynn]

Yeah, if hes had a gf, whether he likes her or not, I would stay away......

[clynn]

Sounds like he obviously still likes you after all this time.

HOWEVER....:

a) he has a girlfriend
b) he lives in another country

Neither of those things bode very well for a future together.

I would be flattered and just take it as a compliment.

[pinkpuca84]

nope...he doesnt live in another country. He's student FROM other country. but he lives here in Australia for studying (so he's currently in the same country as me, he even told me that he's going to visit my country one day later). strange tho...he never shows me his gf's pic. he seems to be rather secretive abt her. telling me he doesnt love her that much...bla bla bla. and refused to talk abt her. i started to doubt that he lied abt having a gf now. what do u think?

one more thing, he's EXTREMELY genius guy, his intellectual level is waaayyy...above anyone that i know. sometimes i just dont understand what he's thinking. thats why i dont want to jump into conclusion. his mind is too complex. (btw, why is that i always gets involved with "twisted" minded guys, anyway??? i've just realised that the guys that i like, are all "misterious"...geez...i'm driving myself crazy).

[mini696]

If it was me... I would be doing those things for two reasons.
1. I like you, and want you to know I like you.
2. I am a nice guy and that is what I do.

[pinkpuca84]

so i asked him abt it today. he said that he only wants me to be happy. then i asked him in what way? he said in everyway...then he told me that it was cold. aha! would u believe it? or he just made an excuse?

[mini696]

You are both being cryptic about your feelings. One of you needs to grow some balls (or whatever it is that you women grow) LOL, and tell the other person "Hey I like you, more than just as a friend, would you go out with me?"

He seems like he is doing what I would have done 6 months ago, being nice, but protecting myself from being rejected by never asking "the question".

[Illusional]

i agree with OV. take it from a guy's point of view. he is only reminiscing of the better times that you two had together. i've been there when i got back with an ex because i wanted sex. yes yes yes, i know that i'm a bad guy but c'mon... how many of you have done it??

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