first time pains

[gayle]

I am a virgin and when my fiance tried to stick his finger in me, it hurt so bad I screamed. We've tried to have sex since then, but that hurts too. He hardley gets in, the pain is so bad I make him stop, so he doesn't get in enough to please me. Any advice?

[jane]

Were your ready to have sexual experiences with him?
See the thing is .. if your scared that's ok. It will hurt a first but, if you really weren't "ready" then it would be unbareable. I guess you need to really think about it.

I would also think it might help if your man uses some lube first. I think it might lessen the pain alittle.. Just try and stay relaxed.

[gayle]

we've never tried a lube, could that be all it is?

[jane]

it might be.. it could also be that subciously..(sp) that you aren't ready. I would be absolutely ceratin that your ready, use lube and relax. Honestly, fingering can even be better then sex sometimes!