my first time really nervous

[helpme...]

hello, ive now been with my girlfriend for almost 2months and we feel we should have sex as we both ready, it gonna be happening tonight, i really nervous though im a virgin and she isnt, so i feel like i dont wana look stupid like end up bein really crap and not as good as her ex, or mayb i wont bring myself to do it either that would be really embarassing, we both 16 and 17 this year n both want it to happen. thanks any advice

[Kellie_Sabrina]

I'm not going to judge you or your situation. I think though you should really think about it. Make sure that this is what to want to do & that she is the right girl. You should listen to yourself & not any outside pressures.

You should also protect yourself b/c she has had sex before, so it just may be that she hasn't been tested for diseases. I'm not trying to scare you, but it is better to be safe than sorry. And too, it will be LESS LIKELY that you will have an unintended pregnancy. Not TOTALLY UNLIKELY but less likely.

If you are 100% with your decision to have sex now, then all I can say is don't worry. My ex-bf & I shared the same experience as you two. He was a virgin & I was not. He had the same thoughts as you, wondering if he could compete with my past bf. That is all crazy to me! If she really cares for you she will understand that it is your first time, & she will not be so inconsiderate as to even try to compare you with men from her past. You may lack obvious experience, but that should not be a factor. You need to relax & enjoy the moments. Put all the doubt about your performance aside & just go for it. It's not as difficult as you may want to believe.

[King Zarathu]

I'm going to be a little more open with my opinion: don't do it because you're not ready for it.

God I love being me...

[vashti]

I'm going to be a little more open with my opinion: don't do it because you're not ready for it.

God I love being me...

I'm with you on this one. Unless both parties are old enough to accept the consequences of an unintended pregnancy or STD, they ought not be having sex, and I have yet to see a 16 year old who was ready for either.

[King Zarathu]

I'm with you on this one.

Even on the "God I love being me..." part? You're adorable.

[Ellynn]

Yeah you guys are kinda young.... So if you do decide to have sex...take the proper precautions.. I have two friends who were pregnant at 17..... They used protection.... That should say enough...

Plus, two months isn't all that long being with someone...when your as young as the two of you are...