Should I ???

[disturbed1]

Well here is the scenario I met this girl back in Oct of 05' and well she was seeing some one at the time and so was I so we were just mutual friends. In Jan 04' of this year my gf broke up with me and it just so happened that her bf broke up with that same week and well we went out for drinks and thats it until recently. That we started hanging out alot more she comes over and cooks me diner once a week and well this past weekend we went to San Francisco (we were supposed to go in a group but ever body flaked, and she still wanted to go) and well when we were in the hotel room she kept making hints that she wanted "some" but for some reason I declined and told her I had to much respect for her to do what every other one of her ex-bf's has done to her, so she got teary and said she really appreciated that and that was that.

But now after the weekend is over i cant stop thinking about her, and well she has been calling me during the week and says baby is it ok if i stop by after work and of course i dont mind but when she comes over nothing ever happens and I dont wanna move in to fast since she has been hurt alot, and yesterday when she called i told her I had to do some grocery shopping and so on, and she said she wanted to come with me. While I am not asking if i should tell her, because that I am gonna do no matter what. The questions is how, normally I would just tell her straight foward but since she's been thru alot I don't know how she will take it, any other suggestions?

[King Zarathu]

How far have you gone with her? Have you even kissed her before?

[disturbed1]

we have kissed but thats as far as I have taken it.

[King Zarathu]

Keep kissing her! Cuddle and be affectionate.

Now, my question is, what exactly is your question?

[disturbed1]

how exactly should i approach her about this since i dont want it to seem that i am being pushy and when i have tried to talk about itshe quickly changes subject (i think she is scared) it seems that most guys in the past have just used her or so it seems that she is kinda expecting the same from me, which is not the case.

[King Zarathu]

Give her time and space.. Since she's changing subjects, subtlety is not the answer here. Try being extremely direct with what you want. "Hey! I need to talk to you about something that's really important to me... blah blah blah" depending on how close you two actually are.

gg guys, gg.

[Gigabitch]

I think you should find some way to convey that you really want her, and it's only your respect for her that keeps you from tearing off her clothes. She probably wants the reassurance that she's attractive to you. Groan a lot when you're kissing her or something.

Then make out with her. A lot.

If you wait tooo long, it'll start getting weird. I think about a month is pretty seriously respectful. Please remember, she has needs, too.

Maybe it's how you treat her after you get it on that matters- not how long you wait before.

[LoVeSyCk]

Tell her! It's the only way to go

[disturbed1]

well she is coming by after work and i decided i have to say what i have to say so ill let you guys know what happens.

[vashti]

Good luck!

[disturbed1]

she just came by and just left to buy us food and well we talked and apperently she feels the same and I found out she's felt like that since she met me and she broke up with her bf when she found out that I lost my gf. hopefully this will work out.

[King Zarathu]

Yeah, tell us if you get laid later.

[Aprilxxx]

Well Hows Things Am Interested 2 No Whats Going On With U 2 Now

[disturbed1]

Well everything is fine we spent the weekend together (and yes Zarathu i got laid) we established that we are seeing each other exclusively, and well so far so good.