This ain't even funny...

[Danny_B]

OK for reasons beyond my control I have managed to be in a situation where I'm meeting 3 different girls at the SAME place with roughly half an hour intervals of them arriving... tonight!

And it would seem apparent that they are all emotionally attached towards me...

Girl1 - I hadn't seen the girl for 3 weeks (xmas break) until yesterday and the probs with her ex (something I've written about here b4) are on the verge of being sorted out so she is looking to make things 'work' between us finally. As I was only dating the girl b4 the break it gave me the right to date Girl2 who I met on NYE and have since dated once and she said she wants to see me again. Girl3 is someone at work who I drunkenly text on NYE who now it would seem is completely head over heels for me.

Crazily enough they are all going out on the town in their own seperate groups to the same place at slightly different times. They have all got to know, some way or another, that I too will be out, and all kinda think I'm going there at some point, as the rest of my group is. It's like a big reunion thing (would u believe) with my group so I HAVE (and really want) to go.

I'm screwed, I have no idea what to do.

These events have all kicked off literally since new years day and have gone so fast that I couldn't control it!

It's not like I meant this to happen... it's not like this kinda thing happens to me everyday... Seriously, they've all text me 2day telling me their plans... it's unreal.

It's not like I can pick a girl either cos it really isn't as simple as that. The biggest problem is Girl1 who always throws herself at me when she's drunk and if either of the other 2 see that they'll be pissed! Plus I will have blown it with Girl2 who I really wanna get to know more as I really like her... Girl1 is someone who I should really stay away from (if u have read my [URL=http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?s=&threadid=1341&forumid=6]previous post[/URL] about her being guilty bout her ex). Girl3, well I really don't wanna hurt her feelings cos I kinda lead her on in my NYE drunken state which I now truly regret!

I'm just gonna pray that it all goes okay...

[sfalexi]

Wow. If you manage to pull this off, I want your autograph.

Alexi

[IceQueen]

You don't have a problem unless you made each of them think you were dating her exclusively. Just pass it off as completely normal. "Oh, Girl2, meet Girl3, we are casually dating!"
If done right that may even raise your value in their eyes.

Because, you know, it's common on the early stages of dating not to be exclusive.

And then, as you continue to date and narrow it down to whichever girl you want to be with, you suggest that you become exclusive.


(That, of course, lets them off the hook, if they are not exclusive with you.)

[jane]

It sound like you are having a "elimidate" situation... Good luck and may the force be with you!

[LightOn]

pimpin' aint easy....

[Innova]

Originally posted by LightOn
pimpin' aint easy....

lol

[sfalexi]

Icequeens right,

But that's assuming that these girls understand the difference between "casual dating" and "exclusively dating". I know a fair share of girls that think that if you're dating them, that's it. In their eyes if you go on ONE date with them, from that point on you are supposed to date them only until you see if it works out or not. In their eyes, that is.

I of course know a bunch that do understand that they can't expect you to drop life for them just quite yet. So be warned that some of your dates might "elimidate" themselves if they are of the first mentality. Hey. At least it'll make your choice easier in the end.

In the future, you might want to try as you can to avoid this situation. I know you said you didn't plan it, but you could certainly get out of it somehow with one or two of the girls.

Alexi

[Danny_B]

hah well it all kinda went wrong but has since sorted itself out to the point I'm now in a relationship with Girl1 (yup, the one I really shouldn't get involved with).

so I arrived late and *absolutely* shitfaced (I blame the reunion!) so to be honest I didn't know really what was going on. Girl1 and Girl3 were at the place and Girl2 text me to say she was elsewhere and wanted to meet up later. All 3 girls were hammered too. Anyway, the fun started when my hammered mate, who had literally just broken up with Girl1's best friend, let slip to Girl1, who was at the time asking me if I wanted a relationship with her, that I'd got with some girl (not Girl2) who new her best friend over xmas and she went MENTAL. I was kinda shocked cos as far as I was concerned we were only dating (plus she'd done the same a month b4). So Girl3 is watching us argue and coming up to me asking if I was ok and then Girl1 is getting annoyed with her and I'm thinking jesus time to leave to go and find Girl2 (I was drunk, ok!). I wanna leave cos Girl1 had been messing me about over her ex for the past few months and now she's pissed off when I get with someone else, she think I'm gonna wait for her forever? Well I ain't. So off I go by myself to meet this Girl2 that I've dated only once when Girl1 chases me down to sort it all out. So we're talking and I'm getting all these texts from the other 2 and she's like, 'who's that?' and I'm like, 'Well...' and drunkenly tell her the WHOLE story (expressively making it sound as though I have all these girls after me) and how she can't expect me to wait for her. So we go back to hers, have a drunken night of passion and in the morning we decide to just be friends, nothing more!

My reason to just be friends with her: bcos of the issues with her ex. My thoughts on why she just wants to be friends: bcos of the issues with her ex.

So I'm speaking to her best friend the next day and she tells me that Girl1's reasons was bcos of the fact 'all' these girls are after me. And I was like, 'what? who told her that?' and she was like, 'you did'. Hmmm. So the drink took it's toll then.

Considering Girl1 is the girl I've really got to know well, and, dispite all the problems, hung around to actually have a relationship with her, I wasn't gonna let it end there, so I had a really good heart-to-heart with her that night and explained all (sober!). We learnt a lot about each other those nights!

The next day she asked me out and we've now been going out 3 days!

Romantic huh? Nah I don't think so either. But considering we've gone through a hell of a lot already and still have strong feelings for each other, it's gotta be worth something. It's been entertaining to say the least and we both know it!

There is one little problem though... I've already arranged to go on another date next week with Girl2 b4 I committed to Girl1... If I turn down the date it would really hurt her feelings, and she's well nice I tell ya...

[IceQueen]

Classy.

[squirrley]

OMFG! Dude what a dilema to be in! Too many women and it'll come back to bit ya in the ass. Has already uh? But I bet it was fun! That was one messed up night!