Quite a [S h o c k]

[Love[Sick]]

Sorry I haven't introduced myself, I tried posting an introductive thread earlier and my computer froze up. -kicks computer-



So, let me just tell you about this guy right quick. Boxer [I have nicknamed him], is quite the ladies man. He can flirt with any girl, and he thinks of sex quite often. But once I got to know him well, I found out he is truely a nice guy. He is really caring, and he sees me for who I am. I admire him because he thinks I'm amazing because of my "unique personality" [a quote from a few nights ago by Boxer], and he talks to me as if I am the only girl with him. But, I could almost say he has three personalities. One is quite [playfully] flirtatious, and desires making out/sex. The other is the perfect boyfriend, he tries to impress you and flirts a bit. The other is the jokester, Boxer acts like this around his friends most of the time.

Well, just the other day at diving practice I had tried a reverse and busted on my back because I didn't go back far enough. I got out of the pool and walked over to the table to grab my towel. Boxer came over and looked at my back, "that must have hurt." I was frustrated because I knew I wouldn't be able to do this dive. I didn't say anything to him and I dried off with my towel and threw it back on the table. I walked back over to the diving board where Lobster [the other diver] was preparing to take his dive. Boxer walked back over to me and wrapped his arm around me. "You can do it, don't let this stop you." I just looked up at him, and I guess I had a doubtful look because of what he said after that. He then picked me up, cradling me in his arms. "It's just like that, but you just have to pull your knees up." I had laughed as he did, and he put me back down. Boxer walked back over to the table and grabbed his shirt. He handed it to me and said "wear this, if you smack again it won't hurt as bad. But I know you won't smack again, you're going to get it this time." I put it on, and it swallowed me whole. Lobster had gotten out of the pool and Boxer took his dive. So I was next, and truthfully, reverses scare me. I refer to them as "The big beastly reverse", that shall proove to you how much I hate them.

I stepped up on the board and Boxer got out of the pool. "You can do it Rae, just don't think about it." Boxer cheered me on. I took the dive, but smacked on my shoulders. It didn't hurt as bad though because of the shirt. I was getting frustrated, and I knew I was loosing confidence. So I got out of the pool and walked back over to where Boxer stood. I was absolutely frustrated, and was close to crying. I had been trying to get this dive down for nearly four straight practices. Boxer wrapped his arm around me and pulled me close. "It's okay, you will get it." What he said made me feel better, and I started wringing out the water from his shirt that I was wearing. Lobster took his dive, and our coach started talking to him.

Boxer stepped up on the diving board, and while our coach was talking to Lobster he turned around and watched me as I continued wringing out his shirt. I looked up, and he spoke. "You look cute in that." I felt my cheeks turn slightly red, and I chuckled slightly. "But you look cute in anything Rae." He spoke again, and I had to look down, I felt my cheeks burning and I didn't know what to say. [Here comes the shocker, and this is where his personality changes.] "You'd look even better in it with nothing on under it." I looked up, and he had a small smile curving his lips. I was completely shocked. I had never really had a guy say anything like that to me before. So, a few dives later [Boxer still flirted around with me] I was back up on the diving board, and I had yet to complete the reverse. I had smacked on each attempt. So when I was getting up on the board Boxer and Lobster cheered me on. I stopped again on my approach, and Boxer said, "Come on Rae, you can do it." I looked at him and said "I can't do it." Boxer and Lobster shook their heads, Lobster cheered me on and Boxer said "Sure you can! Just try." But I had been trying, and I was beginning to think that maybe I couldn't do this dive.

"But I've been trying and all I do is bust, what good do I get out of trying?" Boxer smiled, "I'll see what I can do." So I turned back to the board and tried, but again I busted. Coach told us to take one free dive and we were done. So Tyler got up on the board. I walked over to Boxer and he put his arm around me. "You'll get it next time Rae, but atleast you tried." So, we all took our last dive and we went to the locker rooms to change. When I got out there my Mom was out there waiting on me. I had to go to one of her friends house, and as I was leaving Boxer came out of the locker room. He asked if I was leaving and I told him I had to go with my Mom to one of her friends' house. So he followed us out to the parking lot. Our coach called for him, so he had to go see what she wanted. So we left, and I wasn't given the chance to ask him if he really meant what he said earlier to me.





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Another Time. . . .




This was a few days before the diving practice, and we had just had a home swim meet. Freshmen have to stay after and clean up, and I was stuck with cleaning up the girls locker room. I came out and threw the trashbag into the stack of trash. Boxer came out of the boys locker room with his swimsuit in his hand. He laughed at me as I took off the gloves, and so I put them in his face. "I've been picking up tampon wrappers and stuff with them." He stuck out his tongue and I jerked away the gloves. He then put his swimsuit in my face. "Ewww!!! Gross your butt has been in it!" I jerked them away from him and he had a sly smirk on his face. "What?" I asked, he chuckled and whispered. "You didn't say anything about my [can I say penis on this site?] being on it, so I guess your okay about touching that." I threw his swimsuit at him, and I didn't know what else to say.

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After that a few of the swimmers went to a resturant with a buffet. I was getting some food and I spotted something nasty, I pointed to it and said "You know ou want that." He looked at it and shook his head. "Nah, I want you." He placed his hand on my back for a brief moment and walked back to the table. I didn't know how to take what he said, I didn't know if he meant it, or if he was just joking around.





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So, how should I react to this? I really like them, but I'm not sure how I should show him I am interested in him. Any advice on how I could flirt back but not be too obvious? I want him to see that I am interested in him, but I don't want to flirt too much. So, any advise is welcome, and any opinions are welcome!

Thanks bunches!!

Rae-ful the Graceful.

[Gigabitch]

Rae, he's trying to get into your pants. You're aware of this, right? If you're not ready for that, and I don't think you sound like you are, you need to draw a boundary with him SOON. Your silence is being viewed as complicity. There's a big difference between just flirting and actively pursuing a physical relationship with someone, and he's definitely crossed it.

[Love[Sick]]

Yeah, he is pushing the limits, and I know he wants in my pants. But, I have asked about his behavior and he never "does" anything after he gets to a girl. His [sex desired] persona is just brief when he acts like that. At first when I was around him I nearly ignored him, because I thought he would go after other girls. But after someone told me they thought he liked me I turned my attention to him. They had noticed how he would flirt with me, but I had failed to notice his clues. Could he possibly just be acting like this in a desperate attempt to get my attention?

I plan on trying to talk to him at swim practice tomorrow, and try to uncover this truth, any advise on how to get him to reveil the turth?

[Kiechi]

Yeah, he is pushing the limits, and I know he wants in my pants. But, I have asked about his behavior and he never "does" anything after he gets to a girl. His [sex desired] persona is just brief when he acts like that. At first when I was around him I nearly ignored him, because I thought he would go after other girls. But after someone told me they thought he liked me I turned my attention to him. They had noticed how he would flirt with me, but I had failed to notice his clues. Could he possibly just be acting like this in a desperate attempt to get my attention?

I plan on trying to talk to him at swim practice tomorrow, and try to uncover this truth, any advise on how to get him to reveil the turth?

swim naked.

[Love[Sick]]

Wow, that truely made me laugh. Too bad there is about 30 other swimmers, I just don't have that much courage to do something like that. One thing I did fail to mention in my posts is that he does mess around with my swimsuit straps. If they are twisted he will fix them. Or sometimes he will just trace them with his finger. He will usually do this at diving practice when we are waiting for Lobster to take a dive, or when our coach is talking.

[Kiechi]

Wow, that truely made me laugh. Too bad there is about 30 other swimmers, I just don't have that much courage to do something like that. One thing I did fail to mention in my posts is that he does mess around with my swimsuit straps. If they are twisted he will fix them. Or sometimes he will just trace them with his finger. He will usually do this at diving practice when we are waiting for Lobster to take a dive, or when our coach is talking.

If I can "truely" make you laugh online, imagine what I could do offline. Oh the possibilities.

As for your situation, you could try and ask him but there is no insurance that the answer that he will give you will be the real one. But like Vashti stated in another thread, not all men are bastards.

[Love[Sick]]

I am completely looking past one of the reasons he is acting this way around me. He may want in my pants, but could it be possibly that he is just trying to get to me?

Trust me, I'm not a slut. I'm not flirting back with him in a sexual way, I don't want him like that. Don't get the wrong idea about him because of his actions in the situations I described to you. He's really a nice guy, and those are the only two times he's acted like that. And it has been within two days. I am just confused on what his intentions are. He is a senior, and I am but a simple freshman. I don't want to get the wrong idea, and I want to know how I could learn what his intentions are.

When he does mess around with my shoulder straps, I get goosebumps. I guess I'm sensitive on my shoulders, but the way his touch makes me feel is tempting.

[Kiechi]

How old are you exactly?

[Love[Sick]]

I will be 15 in about a month.

[Kiechi]

I will be 15 in about a month.

Ah alright. Well firstly, I retract my playful comment in my previous post as I'm not much a fan of porridge.

As for your situation. I'll leave it to the female members of the forum, as they're older (and I mean old) and experienced.

Kthxbai

[Love[Sick]]

Ah alright. Well firstly, I retract my playful comment in my previous post as I'm not much a fan of porridge.

As for your situation. I'll leave it to the female members of the forum, as they're older (and I mean old) and experienced.

Kthxbai

I was wondering what you meant by your earlier comment. I was going to ask, but now I know enough. But what do you mean by "porridge"?

[Kiechi]

I was wondering what you meant by your earlier comment. I was going to ask, but now I know enough. But what do you mean by "porridge"?

Prison food.

You're 14. I'm 18. I made a flirtateous comment towards you. I find out your age. I don't like porridge. I retract it. You wonder what I was on about. I then go on to explain this. And by explaining this I am explaining what I was explaining.

[Love[Sick]]

Well, does that make it wrong for me to go after Boxer? He's 18. I can't stand any of the freshmen guys, they are all too immature. But that's not saying much, I'm a bit over-board too.


And isn't there a law banning anyone over 18 to have sex with a minor?

[Kiechi]

Well, does that make it wrong for me to go after Boxer? He's 18. I can't stand any of the freshmen guys, they are all too immature. But that's not saying much, I'm a bit over-board too.

Well, to me that says it all. I doubt he genuinly "likes" you in the way you think he does. You probably sees you as an easy lay and I suggest you forget about boxer... which sounds like a dogs name anyway. From what I see, what a 14 year old wants from a relationship is entirely different from what an 18 year old wants... actually in this day and age I'm not quite sure if that statement is entirely true. Forget that, forget about him and find someone your age. Or even better, forget about boys in general until you get older.

For your question - Yes, there is. [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statutory_rape[/url]

[Love[Sick]]

His name isn't really Boxer, that's his nickname I derived from another situation. -blushes-

So you are recommending that I completely move past him? I should just forget him?