I know this isn't a psychology forum lol, but any feedback would be great!
I'm just feeling really confused, agitated, and upset.
a couple of weeks ago, I met a guy who I heard sort of liked me. We had a good time together, a lot of laughing, the guys a real comedian and he looks nice and good looking. Nothing to complain about. And yet I can't understand why I'm feeling so upset. Nothing even started but I'm feeling sick and nervous. It happens to me every time I meet a guy, that's why I usually back away from them, because I hate the feeling of.....no self control, I mean if a guy can shake me in such a way, what's the point of having anything to do with him?? This guy is even younger than me, oddly!!
This one night when we went to my place (he acompanied) there was awkward silence, I said dumb things that made no sense whatsoever. Then I kissed him on the cheek, but it seemed as if he was expecting more. He seemed really upset as he went away, and for some reason this is making me feel like sh*it. I know there is NO reason why I should feel this way, but I do.
It's like I'm afraid of having a relationship with a guy, even though I sometimes think how it would be like to have one. I'm very particular, I don't like it when I have to change my routines, habits, and thinking about being with a guy really frightens me. Because that would mean my life would change or that I could risk being too attached or something
What is wrong with me? Probably nothing is really 'wrong', but where are these feelings of awkardness coming from? I'm not an awkward teenager anymore, I should be out there enjoying my life, carpe diem no? Most girls would have kissed him right away or even more, but I'm not like that. I actually wanted to kiss him, but for some reason didn't. I didn't want him to think I was an easy girl.
It's not that I was traumatized or anything in the past, so where is this fear coming from?? Does anyone have any thoughts?