A change of pace

[jurupa]

I finally got a job after not having one for 5 months, and today I meet a very attractive girl, that is doing the same thing I am, and even had the chance to talk to her. I was expecting her not to be that nice to me as my history with such girls has not been good and so I ignore them and don't even try and approach let alone talk to them. But this girl was so far the nicest one I have meet. Which surprise me.

And wasting no time at all I was checking her out during out break when we were talking. Even tho I did my best to hide it and not do it so much, I am pretty sure she picked up on it and I kinda feel like an idiot and a dumb ass for doing something like that the first day I meet her. But when your attracted to someone it is hard to stop such things from happening.

Anyway. I know I usually have a policy of not dating girls from work that are in the same work as I am, but I am thinking of making an exception here. But from being rejected from girls that had a boyfriend that seemed to be interested in me is almost holding me back more than plain out being rejected because she is simply not interested. She only works to days a week and is in college like me, so I won't see her until next week.

But if there are anyways to knock out the mind set that is holding me back that would be great.

[vashti]

Don't ask her out. Dating girls from work is bad. In the very likely event you aren't gonna listen to me, then at least wait until you are POSITIVE she likes you. This means wait until she is pretty much rubbing up against you and purring.

[Gigabitch]

Vashti, as usual, is 100% right. DO NOT ask her out.

[TheSphinx]

Vashti's got it right. Consider what your work environment will be like if she doesn't have the same ideas...or if you begin dating and have problems later on? Why not just show her how much of an awesome guy you are and become buddies (casual, not best friends)? It is incredible how willing girl friends are to introduce really cool guys to their single girlfriends. This leaves the possibility of dating her when your work situation is changed.

[jurupa]

Don't ask her out. Dating girls from work is bad. In the very likely event you aren't gonna listen to me, then at least wait until you are POSITIVE she likes you. This means wait until she is pretty much rubbing up against you and purring.

I was going to wait until it was to the point.

Vashti's got it right. Consider what your work environment will be like if she doesn't have the same ideas...or if you begin dating and have problems later on? Why not just show her how much of an awesome guy you are and become buddies (casual, not best friends)? It is incredible how willing girl friends are to introduce really cool guys to their single girlfriends. This leaves the possibility of dating her when your work situation is changed.

I already knew this. But I don't think being friends with her even as a "buddy" would be a good thing as I am attracted to her and so I am sure some of my actions to her would be out of the interest I have in her, compared to being a real friend. And I don't think that is the right thing to do. And I don't think it is possible from stopping this from happening if I took the friend route. I understand about her having me meet one of her female friends to maybe go out with, but I don't think it is ethical to go out with one of her friends while I am interested in her.


I am fully aware of the dangers of dating a person that is in the same division as you. This is why I am not going to try and make a "move" on her. I will talk to her and work on my small talk as I suck at that and she be good to practice on, beside the older females that I work with, that I have no freaking interest in lol. But like I have done at all of my jobs so far, I will continue my tradition of checking out the girls that are coming to where I work. And so far I can't complain about the quality of the girls so far, as even the average looking girl is hot where I work. Let alone the money that some of these girls will or may have is more than what I have and is most probably way more than I will ever have.

[jurupa]

I have a small update on the girl. It seems the girl that was training me today/tonight is friends with the girl I am interested in, as my trainer would talk to her when ever we walked past her. I just smiled for the most part or said a thing or to. But the girl I am interested in smiled at me and made eye contact when ever I past her or when her and her friend (my trainer) would come over to talk to her. Also the trainer asked me a couple of personal questions like if I was single, my age, where I live, who I lived with etc. So it may be possible that my trainer was doing recon for her friend.


My trainer is working tomorrow as well as I am, so if I am with her again I was going to ask a couple of questions about the girl I am interested in, but not as many nor in depth as the ones my trainer asked me.

And on a side note the female dancers for the ballet that was on tonight where hot a heck, it also helped that they where from Germany.

[The Great OV!!!]

Don't ask her out. Dating girls from work is bad.

Career > pussy > dead end job(basically anything pre-college grad)

How much do you care about this job Jurupa?

[Gribble]

I always date girls at work... But I only go on one, maybe two dates, so I guess there isn't time for it to really blow up in my face. They're probably right, Jurupa. It's probably best not to ask her out. Unless, of course, it's a bullshit job that you don't really care about.

[jurupa]

Career > pussy > dead end job(basically anything pre-college grad)

How much do you care about this job Jurupa?

Lets put it this way. It is no means a career job (I have a side job that may actually become one). But it is a lot better than working at McDonald's. And so far I have been liking it there, and as far as my current situation with college it is a perfect job for me right now. If the job was a career job I would not even give the girl a chance and just be nice and polite to her if it was a career job, but like I said it ain't.