It could just be me...

[lamarthe]

Is it just me but as I am finally back on my feet after a disastrous love affair, I feel so light! I am looking around amazed at the color of the sky and find everything great. I am so relieved.

And I wonder: why would I ever put myself again through so much drama and trauma? Isn't love a little overrated? It all starts beautifully and then it gets so complicated. I've been around the block a few times and it's always the same result, eventually it gets complicated.

I can't imagine really wanting to do this all over again. I do think that I am too young to envisage not making love ever again but perhaps some sort of casual relationship is the best solution?

Have I totally lost it? Knock ourselves out, I can take all types of feedback.
I am no shrinking violet.

[Gribble]

You make perfect sense to me. Everyone else is nuts. What say you, me, and a bottle of brandy kick off a casual one-nighter?

[LuvSickStagger]

I hear ya.
Casual relationships can be fun sometimes... but be careful. I've been in the exact same position and I just enjoy life day to day now.
Just take it as it comes and all will be well.

[vashti]

Are you talking about a marital relationship? I know a lot of women in our age range who wouldn't want to marry again. As for me, if my husband kicks the bucket, I can't imagine I would . I love men, but I can love them from a separate residence without the added responsibility. I think the main benefit of marriage is for raising a family, and I already have my babies. Also, I can't imagine putting my kids through the whole step-family drama.

[lamarthe]

Glad to know it makes sense! So much more enjoyable when you take all those heavy expectations away. I'll take it as it comes but I kind of know where I don't want it to take me and that is into another "I'll do your brains in and you'll do mine" situation. I am not saying it never works, it just hasn't worked for me.
And as before I was hoping one day it would, now I realize I am much happier this way. Guess it's not very encouraging for beginners... Sorry!

[Gigabitch]

You'll get back there, I think. It took me a while, and I totally understand you're busy with your son and all. Give it a year or so- you'll find yourself ready for love again.

[General Mac®]

Well my fellow LOVE FEENS, i myself have been in a relationship for 4 years and 7months and at the moment i couldn't be happier. You see when it comes to love you gotta be a strong character or else you are headed for a nosedive into an empty pool. ive had numerous problems but because i stick them and fight, i come out stronger, we both do. so to all my EMOTIONALLY WOUNDED people, take things as they come, NEVER LOOK FOR LOVE, EVER. just enjoy life.