Hi - Anybody any ideas on this one?
I've been dating my gf for about 9 months. Don't really see each other too much as she works late/long hours but try to hook up at least once or twice a week - always text/phone.
Last few months she's been under pressure with work (hates the job/hours), money (owes friends a few 100), car (pretty dodgy vehicle) etc. Added to this, she's been to doc because she couldn't cope and he gave her some anti-depressants.
During this time, she stopped calling so often, fewer texts, when it was her day off work says she so tired she doesn't want to see me (or for me to even come over). So different to how she was before. I carried on calling her, no pressure, but just to tell her i understood if she wasn't feeling too well. But it got to about a few weeks when I hadn't seen her that I was desperate to go over - just to see how she was.
I figured that she was being so distant that either she wanted to break up or something was seriously wrong. So I called and asked why she never wanted me to come over/go out with me.
Reply - volley of abuse, citing that I should have sorted out getting her a new job ages ago, that I didn't care for her, that I didn't love her enough, that we should have moved in together after dating for about two months?!
Something flipped in me and so I went over to her place (even though she told me not too) and kept knocking at her door until she came out. Why I did this, who knows, it was so unlike me, but I felt so angry and upset with the things she said.
She eventually came out and was absolutely frozen with me. Even more mad, saying I'd embarrassed her by doing this and that I wasn't worthy of being with her!
I spat out words and names at her (childish remarks, but just to let off steam) and then calmed down and tried to talk to her. She was having none of it - wouldn't talk, wouldn't acknowledge why I might have been upset - all she considered was that I was bad and useless BF.
She told me to give her space. I agreed but I asked her to a least text me something the following day (was hoping maybe an apology), but just got a shrug from her.
How has she made me from being so happy, to feeling insecure, irrational and worthless? All I wanted was to give her some affection and now i just crave for it to be given back. I was (almost) begging for her to just hold my hand - but she pulled away and smirking at me (punishing me because she knows it hurts me). It felt she was angling for an argument so I would go nuts and just split up with her (she's great at turning my explanations as to how I feel as a witch-hunt against her, saying "well if you feel that way, then leave me").
Any wise female words? (I think I might have just turned from being a great BF into a door mat - she did say awful things, and acts so cold but I just want her back). I know the answer, no contact and let her have her space but I feel crap.
Does it sound terminal? Any hope? Should I really be giving this woman another chance?
Thanks for reading my ramble.