I have a feeling this story has been told before but I thought I'd ask advice anyways...
I've been living with a woman for 7 years now. She is a great person but that "spark" hasnt been there in a long while. I've tried to get the spark back believe me. Weekend getaways, vacations, movies/dates etc... Nothing will revive the passion, the attraction, the spark....
So a month ago I start a new job in a very corporate setting. Immediatly I took notice to a woman in the office who sat just up from my desk. My first impression of here was "Wow she is pretty hot".... And for 3 weeks thats all I seen but I didnt persue it... Then on the 4th week I noticed a few signs she dropped me that she is interested and I acted on them. We ended up talking on MSN one night and she told me she is married but her relationship is lacking the same things mine is... I then told her mine is lacking this as well... I asked her if she is faithful to her husband and she said normally yes but sometimes she cant help it (meaning me which I soon found out)... She asked me if I am faithful to my common-law and I admitted I have slipped a time or two...
She then expressed she had interest in me and I to her... Well it has been hot an heavy in the office... Sneaking into boardrooms to fool around etc. Teasing and taunting eachother in our cubicals... We'd then leave the office at 4pm and sit in her car till 5:30 just talking, kissing and holding hands.
I however have developed a love for her. I know its too soon but there is something about her and I know its not lust. I told her I would go the next 6 months without sex with her just to prove its not lust...
She has feelings for me too but she said she doesnt know what they are yet as its too soon and she doesnt want to say something and end up being wrong later on and hurting me even more. However, I can tell from her kisses what she feels I think...
In the first few days of this relationship she kept telling me we're just something on the side and she isnt looking to change her home situation (and no she doesnt have kids) but now its different... She kisses me different and she has started saying "whatever happens happens" rather than Im just a thing on the side...
I guess what I'd like to know is what you would do and what do you recommend that could help me in this situation. I'd like to hear from people that agree and dissagree with the situation...