I upset him on his birthday

[Claire84]

My boyfriend had his best mate and girlfriend round for his birthday. I get on well with his mate and girlfriend. I have thought his mate was a bit of alright but obviously I love my boyfriend to bits and want to be with him. Apparently the next morning he woke me up on his birthday and said I spoke in my sleep and he couldn't remember what I had said. Then I asked him again later and he said I said a guys name but he would rather not say the name as it’s hurtful.

I know if it was a male friend of mine he would have argued. Apparently I have shouted out 2 guys names before, I tried to explain I don't remember doing this or dreaming. I have no idea why I supposedly shout these names out.

I treated him to a meal on his birthday and was kind to him. I just feel awful cos he avoided driving past his mates as we usually go that way to go places but he took a different route. I just hope he doesn't tell his mate cos he will go round all big headed and his girlfriend would want it out with me.

I am annoyed now cos I think he is going to stop us meeting as a group as he fears I want his mate. I do find it awkward being around his mate sometimes and his mate seems the same, I have loads in common with his mate not that this is justifiable. I really don't want to bring it up again with my boyfriend as it will upset him.

[vashti]

If you make a habit of calling out men's names in your sleep and your boyfriend is insecure about it, maybe you shouldn't spend the night with him. There isn't any way to make yourself stop.

[tooxshort]

for all he knows, you coulda been yelling someone else's name out in terror ...

[Gribble]

What an asshole. Tell him very bluntly that you have no control over what you do and say in your sleep, and if he can't deal with that then he can go suck a 12 gauge. What extreme ignorance. You can do better, whoever you are.

[clynn]

Uh oh!

Well, you could have been calling his name out for lots of reasons - not necessarily romantic ones. It could've been some other reason.

[LuvSickStagger]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. People say crazy shit in their sleep. I've freaked out a few girls talking in my sleep... something I used to do a lot.

[Gigabitch]

He sounds like a real piece of work. I'm with Gribble. Draw a hard line.