I M So Mad!!

[anxious]

I know this has some thing to do with this forum because it has love i know!!

Well my mother is cheating on my father. He knows and he tried to stop it but thier no evidence to support it. Well now i have confirmed it. The man my mother is with, his wife came to my house and told me, my sister and my grandmother. I m very shock. I can't imagen how hurt my father will be. I don't know it his fualt or not because my father can't be at home ( i m not confidence to say a part about my father ).

I really don't know what to do. I feel scared. I know this is going to impact my sister since she is still young.

my family is falling apart!!

What do i do!? What can i do!?

[vashti]

I suggest you stay out of your parent's relationship troubles. That woman should never have told you a thing, and your mother and father should not be leaning on you for support. If you love both your parents' don't take sides, and don't listen to your parents bitch about one another. That is what their friends are for. Don't tell your sister; it is bad enough that you know.

[anxious]

i feel so useless thought....it feels as if you are stanindg infornt of some one whos about to kill your love ones.

so so depressed when thinking about it..

[Gribble]

It's tough. Put on a strong face for your sis' and brace for the storm. It'll be over and all but forgotten some day.

[bluesummer]

I can't believe that woman had such little class to come over and shove these issues in the face of you and your family (whom this has nothing to do with). Unbelievable.

Now that it's out, try not to judge and keep out of it. Its hard I know, but its your parents relationship and they need to sort it out for themselves without everyone else's input (or animosity). Unfortunately, its also more common than you think. Over the years, myself and my friends have all come out and admitted we knew our parents had affairs. We all turned out ok, and so will you. I hope your parents can work this out in a way that will not affect the family in too negative a manner.

Good luck my dear.

[anxious]

i watch the movies but who to thought it will happen to me....

yem i m trying to be strong for my sister...

i don't knwo about my self..

[vashti]

Look at it this way: if 50% of married people cheat, then the chances that one (or both) of your parents was gonna do it were very high. This happens to lots of people, and it may blow over. People don't usually rush right out to divorce when there are kids involved.

If I were you, I would tell your parents straight up that you don't want to hear anything about the affair and that the only thing you DO want to know about is that which will *directly* impact your life.

[Gigabitch]

I think it's too late to stay out of it. I think you should confront your mother (alone) and tell her that her behavior is impacting everyone.

[anxious]

yeh...that what i m planning to do.

[vashti]

You mean she doesn't know yet that she's been outed? I assumed she was aware... My advice applies to AFTER she knows she has been discovered.

[anxious]

she knows alright now i just discovered that she went on holiday, first i thought it was to fix her nose but now i knwo she went with that man!

[Tiay]

ah, my mom went to fix her knee.
nothing as serious as your situation though. things have pretty much smoothed over for me. I hope your family does not fall apart. My heart goes out to you.

[Mel]

I know this has some thing to do with this forum because it has love i know!!

Well my mother is cheating on my father. He knows and he tried to stop it but thier no evidence to support it. Well now i have confirmed it. The man my mother is with, his wife came to my house and told me, my sister and my grandmother. I m very shock. I can't imagen how hurt my father will be. I don't know it his fualt or not because my father can't be at home ( i m not confidence to say a part about my father ).

I really don't know what to do. I feel scared. I know this is going to impact my sister since she is still young.

my family is falling apart!!

What do i do!? What can i do!?

Aw, you know.. I don't know what is worse to live with .. parents that fight all the time or ones that cheat on each other?

[Love Angel]

That kind of things happen for a reason, they will have to talk for real instead of lying, and it is good that it came forth.
if your dad is often appart her needs dont have been met, need of love and care, and it could also have happen that it was your father who chested her while being away and your mum will ahve first found out years later when he will have gone away. I heard that before, leaving kids and all, and never even calling his kids nor seeing them ever again..
here its more a crisis that maybe will be met and over come.
It will demand better communication, and maybe it can be saved.
And you will all coem out stronger.
If your parents have develop in 2 different directions through time there is nothing you can do, this can also hppen withotu cheating and end with divorce as well.
Maybe your dad wasnt very attentive to the changes that occured with your mum, and waited too long to adress soem problems they had already.
Nobody can decide to love or stop to love soembody,it just happen.
We cannot control that.
Would you prefer your mum living unhappy ever after just for your sick and your sister sick, and sacrify her own life for all 3 of you?
It is as hurtfull i think
There is no black and white here, it is very complex, and you cant say its her fault entirely. It is life.
We cant and dont have to be in control of life all the time, things happen on their own, and we cannot stop it.
Thats the way it is.

[anachronistic]

that's harsh.

my mom is really insecure about our stepdad right now. she always checks his email and a bunch of stuff. it's saddening.

when something happens like that between parents, we have to stay out.