my boyfriend was missing his mom. she left him when he was 2 (17 years ago). i went on the net, found her and they reunited. now, she is taking him to oregon to meet his grandpa...for a month. This woman has met me once...and ever since she's been in the picture she's tried to break us up. its not that i dont want him to go to oregon...i dont want him to go for so long. she doesnt understand how much ive been there for him....i got him out of debt, i got him insured, i got him 16,000 dollars for finacial aid. ect... im the kinda person that invites him everywhere....he is the first boyfriend ever that has met my family in colorado, he is the first boyfriend who met my grandpa..we even drove up to san fran and stayed at his house....and for the first time, i got to bring a boyfriend to my sisters xmas...and thats amazing....like...really amazing...she even got him a gift.
is there anything that i can do?
heres what i what:
1. to go with him up there (even if i go up after hes been there for a couple days)
2. to have him not go for so long
a month is just too long for a college student living on his friends couch to be away from work and school...its just not how it works...and i dont think his mother is being a very good mom doing that....he is very impressionable towards her...and she is basically teaching him that it is ok to escape for a month
also, i think its rude to ask me just to wait around and be ok with it...and not be sad...cuz that is what he expects....
on top of all that...i was invited when they first met by the grandpa....and then his mom brought it up and i said "ya...*grandpa* invited me to that" and she thought i was rude for inviting myself!!! (reason #1 why she does like me)
reason #2 is alex invited me to meet her for the first time...and instead of saying "i want *girlfriend* to meet you tonight" he said "*girlfriend* wants to meet you tonight" so she thinks i invited myself.
any advice? :\