need advice!!

[krypt]

I have recently just split up with my girlfriend, we were together for 2 and a half years, she was my first love and i was her first love and it was our first time for both of us when we made love. We have been split up for 1 month and it really hurts but we were still meeting as friends but still kissing. But last week she started going out with someone and that really hurt me so much felt like someone died, so i was talking to her on the phone just saying i hope he treats her right and all that and she says that she still loves me and not him she still wants to be with me, so we agreed to meet this week and i could tell she wanted to kiss me but we didn't untill after being together for 2 hours and we just kissed, for soo long it was so romantic and she said she loved me, she makes so many hints she wants me and loves me, yet why isnt she with me, i just really dont understand

Also i was never really that physical or violent towards her but their were a few times where i did loose it but not to the point i hurt her. Please help

[Gigabitch]

She needs to make a decision, and if she can't, then you need to make a decision. What you're doing now is no good for anyone. Either be together or not.

And you must have added that last bit for a reason. Is that why you broke up? You "lost it"?

[krypt]

no the reason we split up was my fault, i decided it was the right move to dump her because she seemed to possesive and i didnt want to spend all my time with her like she did with me, i wanted time on my own and with my mates, and when i say i lost i mean in a way i might shout loudlysay a few bad thing, at the most but thats it. Basically i dumped her and now i want it back, its a classic one i know but i just cant see life without her, my love for her is so strong

[Gigabitch]

Basically i dumped her and now i want it back,

I'm wondering how long it would be until all the reasons you broke up with her start driving you mad again.

[krypt]

you must be a mind reader because before i made it clear i wanted her back i thought to myself will i just end up dumping her for all the same reasons again, but the more we were apart the more i missed her and started lovingher and the more i wanted to be with her and put it right, just dont know what to do

[Gigabitch]

I think you should give yourself three weeks away from the situation to get a clear head. Tell her you need to sort some things out and ask her to give you some space, and then actually take that time and, you know, sort some things out.

[krypt]

i dont want time apart though, i did that spent 3 weeks aprt without no contact and i decided in that time it was her i needed, i suppose this is just a problem only time will tell, myself to blame though

[Gigabitch]

If you love her more when you're apart, it's not actually HER that you love. Maybe you just miss having a girlfriend.

[Freeway3137]

You miss the romanticness about her (kissing etc.) but can't stand her personality and whatever else drove you mad.

Am I hot or cold?