Losing romance

[LuvLife]

I've been with my b/f for about a year. Our sex life is great, the best I've ever had. But I'm quite an adventurous person and we have started to get stuck in a routine. I want him to start kissing me or touching me, etc... that will lead to sex. Instead he just asks me if i want to. it takes away from the romance. How do i hint to him that i'd prefer it this way?

I was thinking of telling him that he can no longer let me know he wants sex by telling me, but that he should let me know by touch. I just dont know how a guy would react to this. i dont want to make him uncomfortable and feel like he needs to do things differently...

I dont know, please offer some help. Thanks

[Gigabitch]

He asks you, like he was asking you to pass the salt?

I don't think he sounds like the kind of guy who takes hints, unfortunately. I think you have to tell him, "Show me, don't tell me."

I guess you could try to make a game out of it, and them make the sex so hot that he learns a lesson.

[Junket]

I slipped my one hand under hers and guided them both between her legs. Taking note, she placed my fingers appropriately, rubbing slowly, in a clockwise motion.

Harder, she bit down on my lip~

[LuvLife]

Yes Frasbee, something like that would be a better way to hint to me what he wants

[Junket]

Yes Frasbee, something like that would be a better way to hint to me what he wants

Well maybe you should step in first, and show him what you want.

Try maybe instilling a "no talking" rule. Where if he's in the mood, he needs to find another means of suggestion, a certain look, a touch, even something written.

[Tiay]

I quite like the no talking rule. saying "you wanna?" does not count as initiating.

edit: though, I guess it wouldn't really have to be *no* talking, just not directly referring to it.

[vashti]

saying "you wanna?" does not count as initiating.

It always works for me.

[Tiay]

actually, yeah it works for me too ^.^ but it's not romantic.

[anachronistic]

here's a good hint:

after you start making and and foreplay and whatever, start ripping his clothes off and put his penis inside you. don't ask, just do it.

if he doesn't get it after that, just straight up tell him.

[vashti]

actually, yeah it works for me too ^.^ but it's not romantic.

Romance is overrated. I'm more about hot, steamy sex.

[anachronistic]

i'm the kind of guy that likes to give women a taste of both. one doesn't do without the other in my opinion.

[LuvLife]

great points. i like hot & steamy as much as romance. but either way 'wanna do it?' doesnt make me wet.

i'm gonna try what frasbee said and step in first, and show him what I want. and then tell him that is more along the lines of how it should be initiated, no asking allowed, unless its in a naughty sexy way.

thanks for your comments! I'll let you know how it goes

[Junket]

Wouldn't you know this is coming from a virgin?

[anachronistic]

you're a virgin *physically*. mentally, it's a whole different story. go get 'em tiger.

[misombra]

when he asks why don't you just tell him no?

asi mira...

him: you wanna have some sex ::shrug::
you: no thanks.