the truth of any matter.

[maggiesxrevenge]

How likely are you to tell the truth no matter what? My boyfriend has lied to me several times. Do you lie often? Why or why not?

[LostNotFound]

this is very chessy yet true: a relationship is built on trust. if you don't have trust you don't have nothing.

[vashti]

I might lie about something trivial to preserve someone's feelings if there is no other way around it, but not to keep myself out of trouble.

[IndiReloaded]

"You want the Truth?! You can't *handle* the truth!"

(from some movie)

There's truth (ha) to this statement, tho. It takes maturity to know when to be completely truthful (keep in mind 'truth' is often a relative term), but it also take maturity to be able to handle it. And BTW, there is no value in speaking truth for its own sake. Not everything needs to be said. Try to think of it this way:

- what am I trying to improve by being truthful?
- what will the other person gain from my 'truth'?
- is there something to be lost if I *don't* speak the truth?

If the answers are something positive, then you probably should go ahead. If not, you should think a little more about what you are trying to achieve.

[Gigabitch]

I tend to be a compulsive confessor if I feel guilty about something, so I usually do myself a favor and just ell the truth to begin with.

However, that doesn't mean that I just blurt out everything. Does my boyfriend need to know every time some guy winks at me in the grocery store? No. Does my boss need to know how much time I waste at work posting on LF? Oh, hell no.