Gf wants to date others

[Ben-E-Hana]

Hello - this is my first post. I am very interested to hear what everyone has to say. Basically, about a month ago my exclusive gf of 3 years said she wanted the option to date other people. She is 23 y.o. and I am 27 y.o.. This was brought about because she was asked out by a coworker of hers (Long-story short - they went on a date or two, but decided it wasn't worth pursuing further). I am curious as to what her thoughts are regarding the longevity of our relationship. Does she see me as a suitable short-term partner, but not long-term? Why would she want to remain together, yet still keep the option to see other people? How concerned should I be that she was willing to open up our relationship after getting asked out?

[vashti]

Sorry to say, but I'd be worried. I don't think dating on the side is a promising sign.

Why are you allowing this to continue? Most guys would have given her the boot already.

[Jimmy1218]

Hell if I were you, I'd drive my foot up her a55.

[anachronistic]

if she has feelings like this for other people, let her go. some people are really stupid and would drop the people they care for instantly for an orgasm.

[Mathias]

Yep. She's gone.

[jane]

yea.. it sounds like she is tryin to back out of a relationship without "hurting" you but .. I think she just wants the safety net of knowing you'll be there if she fails. Thats not exactly the best thing for either of you.

[Gigabitch]

Ouch. I have only one word for you: doom.

[Ziffmonger]

If you let her, she'll use and abuse you from here on.

She's 23? Believe me brother-she's changing now, but unfortuanately for you not in your favor.

U can do better for yourself. Let it go!

[DoesntMatter]

Yeah things are done for. I mean, 3 years of monogamy (right?) followed by wanting to meet other people means she isn't satisfied or thinks you are the right one. But think on the bright side- If she liked you enough to stay with you for 3 years you must be a pretty cool guy, so you probably won't have trouble attracting another once you get over this one. Even though at this point you probably don't care

[Ben-E-Hana]

Thanks for the advice - it's pretty much in line with what I have been thinking. I just wanted to see things from another angle. It's the whole heart vs. the head...time to be rational here.

[Tiay]

it would just be way too hypocritical for me to post here.

[Only-virgins]

I would completely let her go out with other people..........what?

[jurupa]

Along with everyone else, end the relationship ASAP.

[Miss hotty]

I know it's not waht you want to here but i think youknew what people would say already

[muspi_2000]

relationships done. just echoing what the others have been saying. just end it. trust me on that