emotional detachment

[Alone&Restless]

hi i had a relationship with a married woman,it was all sexual though and i lied about everything by telling her that i loved her with all my heart so that we can have cybersex and real sex.its not that i seduced her but it was her idea,i just talked about sexual experiences and that i loved her and then she told me that she wanted to have cybersex and from there on real sex.after 2 months.here i am,we never broke off and we still chat online,but we bothe went cold towards each other.the problem is i have been emotionally attached to her although i know that she is someone that i can not be with.i feel guilty,sinful and broken into pieces.i had this attachment to her that is making me feel sick/bad all week long,how do i detach myself from her and thoughts of her?i know that she is a cheater that i should hate but i couldnt.

[muspi_2000]

honestly, this is a stupid problem. stupid.

[ExpoNovak]

i know that she is a cheater that i should hate but i couldnt.

Um..yeah....you didn't participate in that at all, did you? Nope, not one bit. You can't hate her if you did the same thing.


And it sounds like that "lying about everything" by telling her that you loved her has come back to bite you. Sounds like she's trying to straighten out her life and you should do the same.

Time heals all superficial wounds. And that's all I have to say about that.

[miSSleepy]

I'm almost thinking that you deserve the problem you're in.

Just stop seeing her. If you wind up together despite everything, well, you deserve each other .