Hitting the right spot -

[northernmonkey]

Dear all,

I am seeing a great girl, and we have had intimate nights together if you know what I mean, the thing is I am a guy who actually prefers to give I get more from making her come and orgasm rather than getting it myself (I would be lying if I said I didn’t want to receive any but anyway). The problem is that I can’t I make her squirm a little and make her breathless and she tenses and stuff but can’t go that extra step to making her orgasm and come. What should I do?

Thanks Ladies



M

[Junket]

we have had intimate nights together if you know what I mean

No...what do you mean?

[Gigabitch]

The best thing you can do is pay attention, very close attention, to what works and what doesn't.

The rest of it is actually up to her. She has to let it happen.

[LostNotFound]

giga what do you mean she has to let it happen?

[Gigabitch]

A lot of girls are too nervous to really just let go and enjoy themselves. Some of them never really enjoy sex at all- think it's dirty, too worried about their body issues, etc.

There's nothing the guy can do about that.

[miSSleepy]

It's true, it's not always the guy's fault. I think it's really ridiculous how the emphasis most of the time is on the guy doing all the work, and if she doesn't come, it must be his fault.

I have female friends who have never in their life had an orgasm, despite having been with (some of them) more than enough men! It's like they just don't know how, and most of the time it's because they actually did not in the past experiment with masturbation. With a woman, or at least myself, it takes mental work most of the time to make it happen, and if they don't know what to expect or what it feels like to orgasm, they'll have a more difficult time getting there. Couple that with being nervous during sex and yeah ... that's why it's always best to get acquintened with your hand first

[vashti]

Has she ever had an orgasm on her own? That would be an important first-step.