Do You Trust Your SO?

[Gigabitch]

How much do you trust your significant other?

Not just about cheating, about everything. About believing that they're on your side and you can tell them your secrets.

[tooxshort]

This question is something I wonder about myself ...

I mean, I can't rationally think of a reason NOT to trust her, but I have some inner demons that make me (on occasion) think of these outrageous situations ...

But normally, it doesn't come up very often ... I figure she's like me ... especially given her culture ...

[IndiReloaded]

I can't answer the poll, Giga. Trust in what sense? It depends on the context. There are many things I trust my husband to that would devastate me if that trust was broken. But there are some other things that I know just aren't possble, or are very difficult for him, so to trust him with those things would be stupidity on my part.

The same goes for him, I think.

[squirrley]

Hmm, up until the last 2 weeks I trusted him with my life, but apparently I cant trust him with my sons. So...theres wasnt really a answer I could choose for my particular situation. BUT, I trust him with our relationship 100%.

[Tiay]

100%.

maybe i'm just naive ^.^

[miSSleepy]

I trust him a tad more than I trust myself. But that's OK, ME I can control. heh

[DoesntMatter]

Completely. I trust myself

[vashti]

Yeah, I trust him completely. If he does something dumb, it was certainly not intentional.

[Junket]

I mean, I can't rationally think of a reason NOT to trust her, but I have some inner demons that make me (on occasion) think of these outrageous situations ...

I'm completely with you on that dude.

My girlfriend is probably more trustworthy than myself, and yet when I didn't hear from her for those 3 days I was thinking between

- she died
- she lost her phone
- she has no reception
- she got drunk and lost her virginity to a gang bang/orgy out in the woods with her co-workers, recovered from it, regretted it, and didn't know how to tell me...or something along those lines, I played with alternate scenarios in my head

'Course I kept that last part to myself when I finally got to talk to her.

[bluesummer]

Although I'm not really partnered at the moment, I think I practice a healthy amount of cynicism with everyone. We are all human - and therefore flawed. I trust, but at the same time, I don't live in some sort of fairytale bubble that would cause me to think there's NO WAY my partner could or would cheat on me. People that do that have the hardest time swallowing the truth when they get slapped with it. Been there, done that.

[DoesntMatter]

I guess the question meant trusting in the sense of cheating or not, but I think there is more to it than that

You don't need a significant other to know that people are never to be trusted... unless they are in your family and are your blood, then I do, because they are an extension of me

I know my parents trust each other completely, that's because they aren't just husband and wife, but family now... That makes all the difference. Calabrian families are tight like that

[Junket]

You don't need a significant other to know that people are never to be trusted... unless they are in your family and are your blood

You might be surprised how untrustworthy family can be.

[squirrley]

agreed on the family trust issue. I confided in my brother and it only took him a week to spill the beans.

I dont trust my husband at this point and thats bad news. Not that he will cheat, but other things.

[DoesntMatter]

You might be surprised how untrustworthy family can be.

No, I wouldn't be surprised. It depends on the family.

[IndiReloaded]

Trust is like love. It comes from you, nothing to do w/the other person, really. And just like love, sometimes you make bad choices about trust.

But as Hayward used to say, there's a difference b/t Trust (self) and Trustworthy (other). Just b/c you don't trust doesn't necessarily make the other untrustworthy, or vice-versa.