Cheating or Just Dating Around?

[pythongrace]

Say you're seeing 2 or 3 or more people at the same time. But all you do with them is getting to know them and make out with them, no sex involve. Would you consider that just dating around? Not cheating right? Why or why not?

[Spidy]

i would see making out as cheating...

[Junket]

I knew it, you're just a high maintenance slut!

[miSSleepy]

If you've agreed to be exclusive with any of these girls, it's cheating. If you're all aware that it's casual, then it's not cheating. Plenty of people go out clubbing or parties and hook up with more than one person

[TAVS]

I personally never date more than 1 person at a time, but from what I read, its fine so long as you and the other person havent made any kind of exclusivity agreement

[pythongrace]

So you guys think that only if both partners made a pact that they are in a relationship and therefore they shouldn't date anybody else, and one of them break that pact, that's when it's called cheating?

[Junket]

You can't assume these things for the other person.

1.) If you're dating multiple people, everybody who you're dating should know you are dating other people.

2.) You should stress that fact you currently are not exclusive to anyone, this way if somebody doesn't like the idea of dating someone who is dating others, they can decide whether or not they want to stay in the relationship.

3.) Yes, if you're dating others and one of them doesn't know you are, at least to them, you are cheating. It makes you look secretive and deceitful.

[Mish]

I think as long as there is no exclusivity agreement, there is no relationship to cheat on. Getting to know people is hardly a relationship, it's just a "friends" stage.

However, you have to becareful with "making out" part. That start crossing the line into uncertainty. The person you made out with will probably not appreciate finding out you've been making out with others.

[alidile]

yeah, it just depends on whether or not there's been some exclusive agreement.

[Tiay]

I think fras' is right. They gotta know.

look at it this way; if a girl would leave you if she knew what you were doing, it's cheating. Nope, doesn't matter if you haven't had the exclusivity talk with her or not. If she knows and is okay with it, it's not cheating.

[pythongrace]

why is everybody thinking I'm a guy? lol

[Mish]

I think fras' is right. They gotta know.

look at it this way; if a girl would leave you if she knew what you were doing, it's cheating. Nope, doesn't matter if you haven't had the exclusivity talk with her or not. If she knows and is okay with it, it's not cheating.

A girl could leave you if she knew you picked your nose in private. Or you have sensitive skin. Or when noone is looking you fart at times. I think some information can safely stay private and confidential if it's not crossing the line.

[Tiay]

so, you wouldn't want to know if someone you were dating was dating others-- even if you really liked them? hmm. I dunno.

also, pretty much everyone picks their nose in private, and everyone farts. these are not actual secrets, they're just things you don't usually mention.

[Junket]

I think some information can safely stay private and confidential if it's not crossing the line.

Yes, that's absolutely right.

But in this scenario, you're absolutely wrong.

[Mish]

so, you wouldn't want to know if someone you were dating was dating others-- even if you really liked them? hmm. I dunno.

Even though I wouldn't mind knowing if they were dating someone else or not (as well as a lot of other things about them) I am not in a relationship with them, so they don't have any obligation to reveal that information to me what so ever. As long as it's just getting to know stages, I'm okay with that. Besides there's nothing wrong with a healthy competition. I would actually feel a lot better knowing that I dated a girl and won over others (as I had in the past). And if I didn't, it's not a big deal. It's just a date anyway. Nothing serious.

Though, if they did cross the line (developed feelings, had sex, even made out with others) then ofcourse they should tell so their other date doesn't waste time.

also, pretty much everyone picks their nose in private, and everyone farts. these are not actual secrets, they're just things you don't usually mention.

I only mentioned them because these can be grounds for a date not wanting to asscoiate with you any longer.